Beta Tales: The Notebook was Wrong

Oh how I love Reddit. It’s just chock full of disgusting examples of how NOT to be with women. Hey, I used to be one of these guys, tearing blind and one-eyed through the dating minefield of doom; over-complimenting women and getting ljbf’d.

Then I became obsessed with Pickup! (Kids Cheering)

You know, it’s not all our fault. We don’t all have Dads or big brothers or helpful blogs to learn from.

Most western men learn from movies written by gay men, nerds who don’t get laid, and chicks.

Here’s a sad, sad tale of a guy that’s been brainwashed by the Mainstread, i.e. Hollywood. Enjoy.

Ok, Reddit, just looking for your basic advice. My roommate [f, 21] noticed a cute boy in her class, and kept expressing that she hoped she could talk to him. One day, offhandedly, she mentioned that she thought she saw him drawing a picture of her in his notebook during class. She posited this as a flattering thing and eventually they spoke and exchanged numbers. They subsequently went on a date, this was around mid-February.

On their first date, they got dinner and then went to hookah. She asked him to come over after and we all hung out and drank a bit. Then, he asked her into the kitchen to talk, and once he got her in the kitchen he asked her to be his girlfriend. On their first date. Ever. She played it cool and said like, basically, haha that’s really serious.. uhh.. let’s go in the other room. The day after that date, needless to say, she tried to ween off conversations with him and she told him straight up she thought he was being too serious and they should take two steps back and be friends for now. He almost cried, but said he agreed.

They had a few friendly meetings toward the end of Feb/beginning of March, but he was still flirting constantly and even tried to kiss her, so she decided to be clear with him and she told him that she had no interest in him and that they should stop talking entirely. She cut off all contact with him — however, he did not stop texting her INSANE things such as “you make me feel alive” or “you know I’d do anything for you” and more CRAZY things about how hard he has been trying to get over her, etc, etc, the most recent ones were today and they have been slightly aggressive, and it’s been really stressful for her. She has been ignoring these texts for weeks and avoiding him in class, but he has started following her in the halls and yelling her name. She leaves as quickly as possible and she has tried a few times to explain to him that she is not interested in him, she thinks there is nothing left to say, etc. He has been incredibly persistent. He even started showing up around some of her classes, publicizing on his Facebook that he has been obsessively reading her favorite books/listening to her favorite bands, etc.

Basically, she is terrified of this dude because we have had some of our property vandalized recently and the general aura around the house has been one of suspense and vulnerability, plus he is being straight up crazy. She doesn’t quite want to go to the police, but she is really at her wit’s end. Any advice would be appreciated.

So he drew a pretty caricature, (highlighting his talent–not his affection) and attracted a girl. But the brother was living in scarcity mentality—“What if I never get another girl like this one?” So in his obviously limited experience he asks her to be his girlfriend. Seems harmless, right? Why not ask her to commit to him? It shows how much he likes her, right. That he cares.

Nope. Sorry.

What this says is “I don’t get laid, ever. You’re my only hope.”

Women don’t want an inexperienced boy with no Game. It’s always better to act somewhat aloof, picky, cocky, funny, and slightly bad boy–with also tiny hint of vulnerability.

Wearing your heart on your sleeve gets you slotted into Stalker territory. Don’t believe the hype, in real life, Ryan Gosling would have been contacted by the po po.

Always make a girl qualify herself.

Ask, “Can you cook? No. Ok, we’re done. Get out.”

“Haha. But it’s my apartment, jerk!”

“I don’t care.”

Right. You understand.

Anyway, so this guy goes total puss puss and starts obsessing over her. Of course, this is what Hollywood movies like the Notebook teach us to do, when in reality, his best bet would be to ignore her, or be seen with other attractive women. Let her chase him.

Most women do not want to be chased. They want that guy that is just slightly out of reach.

If you want to be Ryan Gosling, be more like this Guy. 

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