Have you ever been into a girl, and she says: “You’re nice, but can we just be friends?”

It happens to all the “nice” guys. We suffer from loneliness because we’re too sensitive.

One friend of mine was stuck in the friend zone with a girl he liked. He wanted advice to get out of it. I told him the next time she calls him her “friend” to say this:

“I have enough friends. I want to be closer to you than a friend.”

He didn’t believe me. “There’s no way I’m saying that!” He replied. And so he remained in the friend zone.

The Latina Girl that Put him in the Friend Zone

A few months later, he met a hot Latina girl. It was the same situation; she give him the “Maybe we can just be friends?”

This time he did what I told him and gave her the ultimatum: date him, or move on.

He said. “I have enough friends. I want more with you.”

Well, it worked! They hooked up. He gave her the choice to date him, or not hang out at all. She chose well. No more friend zone for my amigo.

More Tips for Escaping The Friend Zone

The friend zone sucks and no man wants to be placed there.

While the easiest escape is to just say “I have enough friends,” the problem is you risk losing her forever.

So you need to be willing to never see her again. You need to walk the walk.

We’re not all that bold. So here are more tips to keep you out of that friend zone, and in her bed.

Use Boundaries to Escape The Friend Zone

Women respect men with boundaries and clearly defined relationship rules.

In any relationship, as the man, you must know what you want from it.

Men are the risk takers. We do the approaching, we do the seducing. She doesn’t want, or even know how to explain this to you.

All she knows is what she feels, and a guy who is willing to walk away from the friend zone, to lose her forever, is a man who knows what he wants.

Be The Leader

Women need to be lead by their man.

Be the guy that defines the structure of your relationship. Once she takes and holds the lead, gives the orders and ultimatums, you can kiss your relationship goodbye.

That’s because no woman wants to fuck a man who is weaker than her. Not physically, and not emotionally.

Don’t Become Her Friend

Does this mean you can’t be friends with women? Not at all. But if you want to sleep with her, or be in a romantic relationship, then being friend-zoned is the absolute worst thing that could happen.

Digging yourself out of that trap is nearly impossible.

So never let yourself be friend-zoned with a woman you’re attracted to. Just say, “No thanks.”

Many men think that by befriending the girl, she‘ll eventually succumb to their charms. And while this happens sometimes, it’s very rare.

Most men who become “friends” first have an incredibly difficult time getting out of it. That’s because you’ve been framed as a “friend” and not a “lover.” So start by framing yourself as a lover, and don’t go back unless you really just want a friend.

Use Social Proof and Pre-Selection

If you’re in the friend-zone already, the best way to escape it, is to let her see you dating, or attracting, other attractive women.

Go to a party and approach a few women. Get a phone number in front of her. Make her jealous. Date other women. Post a picture of you and a few pretty girls on Facebook. And when she starts to talk about these girls, usually in the form of some tease, or passive aggressive insult towards them, or yourself, say, “So you’re a little jealous huh? Well, you had your chance.”

Don’t be mean, or strict in this regard. Just playfully tease her about it.

This is why it’s critical to learn game, and have an understanding of female attraction mechanisms.

A  man who is willing and able to walk away, shows that he has options. No one girl will absorb his time with friendship, without paying for that time with sex, affection, or at least a really good time.

If you’re friends with a girl without the sex, then she has to play some role in your life. She has to help you with your problems, or act as your wing girl and make you look good to other women, or take you to parties, or do something other than just be attractive in your presence.

Don’t Be The Beta Male

Beta male orbiters are the butt of the mens’ communities jokes.

These guys drive their crush everywhere, they provide emotional support when she gets dumped, buy her trips and vacations, clothes, jewellery, and dish out free cuddles when she’s grumpy.

They put up with low character behaviour, like when she’s whining about petty things. They tell her everything will be alright, and act as an emotional tampon.

And what do they get in return? Her friendship?

If she wants to act like your girlfriend, but without the sex, then you are still friend-zoned. Always be the leader and drive the relationship where you want it to go.

Say “No thanks” to the Friend Zone

I’m a pretty introverted guy. I like to be alone most of the time. I have women in my life, girls who I see and sleep with, but I have very few close female friends.

Not that I don’t have the option. It’s just that I travel a lot, and meet a lot of people.

But when I decide I want to get laid, or find a girlfriend, I don’t play silly games and lead women on to thinking I’ll just be their friend. That would be insincere.

I tell them early on, I don’t want to be your friend. I want something more. If they’re not interested, then I move on and won’t waste their time. It’s not that I can’t be friends with women, it’s just that there’s always an underlying sexual tension.

That’s why most of my close friends are men.

If You Like Her, Tell Her

If you tell her how you feel, that you’d like to hook up, she may say no. She may prefer you as a friend. But if that’s not what you want, then don’t waste your time. You may not get her now, but she’ll respect your honesty.

Have standards for yourself. Have dignity. Know what you want from a girl, and draw your line in the sand.

Or be friends. It’s up to you.