9 Maxims For Success With Women

Man kissing a woman with text: Do This to Attract Her

There’s an old saying in the sales world:

Always Assume the Sale. 

The reason you always assume the sale is because the buyer needs to see your confidence in the product. Because if you don’t love your product, why should they? 

In dating, you are the product. Therefore, you must absolutely love yourself. 

For success with women, or anything in life, here’s the mindset you want to adapt: 

Beautiful blond woman on a bed in lingerie eating an apple

I am the creator of my reality. 

You aren’t tied to the winds of fate. You create the plan and take the actions that mold opportunity into reality. You don’t wait to meet a girl by chance, you go out, socialize and make it happen. 

My product is the absolute best product. 

You are THE MAN. There are few men that would make a superior lover to you. If a woman chooses another guy over you, she must be crazy. 

There’s no reason why any girl would not want to date me. 

Any girl who passes on dating you just doesn’t get it. She’s really missing out on good sex, great conversation, and a very interesting time. 

I’m highly charismatic and attractive. 

You’re an absolute delight to be around. Just a bundle of positive, fun, interesting, masculine energy. 

Women find me fascinating. 

You’re an expert at communication. You have so much interesting knowledge, fascinating stories, and life experiences to share. Women are absolutely hooked when talking to you. 

And what if you don’t feel like you embody these characteristics? 

Fake it till you make it. 

So if you’re not a 10/10 in looks, if you’re not over six feet tall with six pack abs, flowing golden hair and a jawline that could crack walnuts… you act as if you are. 

If you’re not the beacon of confidence and masculinity… you pretend that you are. 

If you don’t have a very interesting life, or amazing stories… go make some. 

And finally: 

You are the prize. 

She is not the prize. You don’t put her on a pedestal. You don’t worship her as a goddess, and your sole hope for happiness and fulfillment. 

You already possess these qualities, and any woman would be blessed to have you in their life. You are the living embodiment of a masculine GOD. 

Any other mindset and you’re doomed to failure. 

Man and woman drinking wine from glasses at a wooden table on a date

Sure, it might sound arrogant. But you want a girlfriend or ten, right? Has the way you’ve been thinking and feeling working out? Then why keep doing what you’ve always been doing? You’ll just get the same result. 

I hear guys all the time doing a pickup and they open with: “Excuse me. Sorry to bother you. I know this is weird but I just saw you over there and I wanted to say hi.” 

This approach is horrible for several reasons. 

  1. “Excuse me,” implies that you’re bothering her. Imagine you’re walking down the street minding your own business and some random man says, “Excuse me?” What’s your first impression? It’s: what does this person want from me? Are they a beggar? Are they with Greenpeace? 
  2. “Sorry to bother you.” Why would you be a bother? Aren’t you an amazing person brimming with excellent charisma and life experience? 
  3. “I know this is weird.” Why would being social be weird? All you’re doing is giving her a compliment. It’s not weird at all; it’s stunning and brave.

Women are more interested in how you feel about yourself, talk and present yourself, than how you look. 

That doesn’t mean letting yourself go, or dressing like a nerd. If you’re truly the prize, then you should show yourself off. Take care of your fitness, wear nice, fashionable clothes, and have a social life. 

The prize means having friends. 

Man talking to young woman on the street at night

Assuming the sale means you are so incredible, no female would ever reject you. They only reject the unknown. It’s their fear of a new experience that’s holding them back from connecting with an amazing guy like you. 

And you don’t hold it against them. You’re not bitter. You just feel sorry for the great experience of dating you that they’re missing out on. 

And then, there’s, “Next.” 

Next.

“Next” is the magic word. 

You don’t cry when she tells you she has a boyfriend, or doesn’t text back. You just say, “Next,” and go meet more girls. There are always more girls. There are millions. 

This is abundance mentality. 

Abundance Mentality. 

There’s more than enough for everyone. Especially for you. 

There are plenty of women for everyone. You aren’t living in scarcity because you’re an attractive man with plenty of options. 

When you aren’t in scarcity, women can sense it. You’re a man of abundance. If she misbehaves, you don’t freak out. You just text one of your other girls. 

Conclusion. 

The fundamental mindsets for success with women are: 

  1. I am the creator of my reality.  
  2. My product is the absolute best product.  
  3. There’s no reason why any girl would not want to date me.  
  4. I’m highly charismatic and attractive.  
  5. Women find me fascinating.  
  6. Fake it till you make it.  
  7. I am the prize.  
  8. Abundance mentality.  
  9. Next.

This may seem like an overly simplistic view, or arrogant, but as men in the modern dating world, we have little choice. 

It’s either adapt, or our genes fade from existence. 

Now go live the dream. 

Tony Depp.

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