Is Studying Pickup Shameful?
Should you be ashamed of studying seduction? No. Absolutely not. Should you share your new hobby with all of your friends and family. No, probably not.
If you teach seduction then you are cool and interesting, but if you study seduction you are weird and creepy. This is just a generalization of course, because there are many open minded and intelligent people out there. Unfortunately, they’re rare.
Most people attach their own meaning to the words, “Pickup Artist,” associating it with top hats, negs, manipulation, sex addiction, douchebags, creeps and weirdos. By using this term, you are saying that you actively pursue women, which is actually a very unattractive trait. It belies abundance mentality, a very attractive trait. Because if you truly had abundance, then you wouldn’t need to practice your skills.
It’s retarded I know. But this is how the world works.
Try this experiment. The next time you are in a bar practicing your game and a girl asks you what you do, tell her you’re a pickup artist. Watch out for the barrage of shit tests. It’s just a bad idea. The problem is, by admitting you are consciously trying to pickup girls, that you are breaking the mystical notion that romance, “just happens,” like when two doves meet in a pond.
Men love pua literature because we are logical. Logic states that if you approach enough women, eventually at least one female will be into you. Logic states that if you are not overly needy, you will stand out from the needy guys. To us men of logic, there is nothing creepy, mean, or douchey about this method. It’s just what we have to do. It’s called being a man, and there’s nothing wrong with it.
There were creeps, douchebags, and womanizers long before anyone wrote pickup guides. Casanova, one of the most celebrated womanizers of all time was actually seen as a scoundrel in his time. It was only after a century that we looked past his conquests and recognized his talent as a writer and philosopher.
My advice to you, keep it to yourself. Tell yourself that game is nothing more than confidence, social skills, sexual escalation and self-awareness. It’s not your job to share fight club with the world. Let the Muggles be Muggles and do this for yourself. But if anyone asks you if you read that book (The Game) or any other book about seduction, tell them, “Yes I read that book. And so did almost every man I know at some point. It’s a good book and I learned a lot from it.” Never, ever, be ashamed of reading a book. Only fools judge someone for reading a book. And the world is brimming with fools. You aren’t one of them.
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Study pu & you’re a creep , teach it & you’re cool. I’m a creep. What can I say ? I can say: “Get my creep on , baby !” The words of a true gentleman.
“I , creep ,” period. Forget: “I think , therefore I am.” “To be or not to be” , is pointless , also. I like: “I , creep , therefore I am ( a creep ).
I’m a creepy – crawler , I dare say. I’m liking it , Tony. I admitt creeps aren’t cool , but at least we’re something , lol.
I think it should be noted however, that the practice of seduction is far more important than the focus on theory.
Good advice…I think a lot of being shamed out of studying pick-up, at least the attitude behind it, goes back to the idea of beta-male shaming. A lot of people don’t want you to step up, and go out side of your role as little beta-male or the little box society puts you in. But yeah, it’s none of their business anyways. Pck-up isn’t shameful.