It Will Take Years…Sorry

Two years ago in Montreal I coached young Saudi doctor in residency. In his country, if a man approached a woman and hit on her, he could be imprisoned, tortured and ass raped. He was under a lot of social pressure from friends and family to find a wife, get married, and make babies, but had no clue how to attract women.

“What do you want?” I asked him.

“I want to learn social skills.”

“No, what do you want?” I asked again.

“I want to improve myself, and find a wife.”

“Dude. Let’s cut the crap. What do YOU want?

He looked at the café floor, then back at me and laughed. “Man,” he said. “I want to fuck a blonde. No, I want to fuck lots of blondes.”

“I can help you with that.” I said.

The doctor didn’t like his career path. The people he worked with were angry, abrasive, stressed out and unhappy. Their negative energy had rubbed off on him.

“Have you ever heard of the ten day negativity challenge?” I asked him.

“No.”

“Well, for ten days, you are not allowed to hold onto negative thoughts for more than a few seconds.”

“Oh shit. That’s going to be hard.” He said.

“You want hot blondes?”

“Yes…ok, I will try.”

The doctor had never read a self-help book. I gave him a list. Stuff like “Think and Grow Rich” and “The Power of Now.” He signed up for my bootcamp and I spent sixteen hours showing him how to approach women in bars, malls, and café’s. He did well, as all my students do.

Yesterday I saw him again for the first time in two years. He bought me lunch and showed me a picture of his girlfriend, a hot blonde. I gave him a high five. I asked him how many women he had been with since we last met.

“You want a number?” He asked.

“Sure.”

“Twenty…twenty five.” He said, modestly.

“Twenty five!” I exclaimed, almost spitting out my coffee. “I’ve created a monster!”

I was amazed. The doctor has completely changed his life. He said the other doctors told him he parties too much and he is too laid back. He’s laid back because he refuses to follow their frame of negativity and stress.

The work you do today won’t always pay off today; it will pay off two years later.

***In other news, my laptop got a virus my first day in Montreal. I spent all day formatting it. Thank god I backed up my book. Not like I would have been working on it, I’m too busy eating fatty foods and getting drunk.***

***Also, for some reason I can’t access my mailing list. So if you are signing up for the Pickup For Newbs book and can’t get it, just send me an email and I’ll hook you up.***

***I’m still in Montreal. I’ll be in Vancouver for July, and then possibly back in Montreal for August. Contact me for coaching.***