How to Daygame – A Primer

Daygame has lost popularity in recent years; however, for day gamers this is a good thing. It means less competition. Let all those guys waste their time swiping endlessly on apps only to meet up with crazy catfishing ladies while we use our big balls to meet real women, in real life. 

I personally love daygame, and have met many of my girlfriends in coffee shops, beaches, malls and street corners. 

While the vast majority of men are hedging their bets on online dating apps like Hinge, Tinder, and Bumble, this mass exodus from the daygame community leaves a very big void to be filled.

In this article, I’m going to teach you what daygame is and how to best utilize it to meet attractive women everywhere outside of a nightclub.

What is Daygame?

The first time I tried a daygame approach I almost crapped myself. I was used to bars where the environment is social. But to approach a girl during the day? It was very intimidating. 

But after years of practice, I conquered my approach anxiety, and I believe any man can do this too and meet loads of beautiful, receptive, feminine women. 

Daygame, in its simplest terms, is meeting women for the purpose of dating, sex, and relationships anytime in the daytime.

This could mean meeting women in coffee shops, bookstores, street corners, clothing stores, and everywhere else that’s open during daylight hours.

Who Can Daygame?

If you’re a man with a healthy libido, then you can daygame. You don’t even need legs. You could do it in a wheelchair. 

You don’t have to be tall, rich, or exceptionally handsome.

It doesn’t matter what country you live in or what your religion is.

All you need are a good pair of walking shoes, and a phone for all the phone numbers. 

Why Daygame?

Daygame is for men who don’t want to stay out all night approaching women in clubs and bars. It’s free, it’s easy and you’re in bed early without a hangover. 

It’s a way to meet more women who aren’t into the party lifestyle.

Most daygame enthusiasts don’t care for nightlife, and are into a more healthy lifestyle. 

Where to Daygame?

You can daygame just about anywhere. 

Here’s a list of some of my personal favorite places to daygame:

• Coffee shops

Cafe’s are a great place to meet women. You’ll see them working on their laptops, reading books, or just staring at Tik Tok. Coffee shops have a social vibe, like a bar without the booze. So it’s a great place to meet women.

I prefer either going direct or using indirect, situational openers. Is that the newest Macbook? Is that book she’s reading any good? How’s her no fat soy latte?

• Beaches

There’s no better place to meet women than a sunny beach. They’ll always be in a good mood, and the water is a great wingman. 

I like to lay my towel then ask her to watch it while I swim. On the way back I say thank you, and then try a conversation. If she’s receptive and talkative, I say, “I can’t hear you over here,” and move my towel closer. If she’s still receptive it’s game on. If not, I say, “Have a great day at the beach!” Then move down the beach and try again. 

Or you can bring a frisbee or football with your wing, and just ask girls if they’d like to join the fun. 

Once you find a receptive girl, ask her to go swimming with you. Instant and fun date.

• Malls

Meeting women at the mall. It’s almost like being a teenager again. I could probably write a whole book just on how to meet girls at the mall. 

The easiest approach for a newbie is to go direct. “I just noticed you and thought you were so cute. I’m Tony.” 

Here, you can see me meeting this girl at the mall with a direct opener. 

Otherwise, you can go indirect, which depends on situational context. She might be looking at clothes, eating in the food court, or window shopping. 

If you want to learn how to create amazing indirect openers, I have a full course in my Skool community called “Easy Openers.”

• Parks

Parks are similar to beaches. 

Women like to sit in parks and read, or talk on their phones. They also jog and walk their dogs. 

You can use a direct opener, or a situational. The frisbee trick works too.

• Bookstores

Bookstores are a dying breed. Thanks Kindle. 

You can still find bookstores but finding beautiful women inside of them is getting harder. Most would rather watch Tik Tok than read a book. 

However, a few big book stores still exist. 

I prefer situational openers: 

“Can you help me find Harry Potter? Oh, you don’t work here? What are you reading?”

• Art galleries

Most cities have free art galleries and museum nights. You’ll mostly meet tourist women in these places. But they’re one of my favourite daygame locations, even if they’re indoors. 

There’s always something situational to talk about. “I love Matisse. He inspires my own work.”

• Street corners

If you see a pretty woman walking down the street, find your balls, jog up and open her. There’s no law against it. 

Most daygamers can be found hanging around busy shopping districts. There’s no security guards to kick you off the street for harassing women… yet.

• Farmers markets

Farmers markets are where local farmers and artisans sell their goods. You’ll find women here basically window shopping. 

“Is this organic? I only eat organic.”

• Festivals

Festivals are like night clubs, but outdoors in the daytime. It’s a festive mood, so the girls will be happy and very approachable. 

Just talk about the DJ set. “Yeah, I love Trance. Do you like Trance?” 

There are other places to daygame, but those are my favourite locations.

Styles of Daygame

There are two main approaches to daygame: 

The direct approach and the indirect approach.

Which you choose really depends on your own preference. 

Direct Openers

Direct openers are straight to the point.

They explain who you are and why you are there approaching her.

A typical direct opener sounds like this:

 “Hi, I just saw you and thought you were adorable. I had to meet you. I’m Tony.”

With a direct opener, there is no subterfuge. It relies heavily on your confidence, appearance, and other fundamentals, which I’ll cover.

Pros of direct: 

• To the point
• Efficient
• Honest

Cons of direct: 

• Can trigger an automatic rejection
• Often relies on your looks (for first impression but you can bypass this if you dress well, are in shape, or have good verbals). 
• Can get you a bad reputation if you always go direct in the same places, like the gym or your favourite coffee shop. 

Indirect Openers

The indirect opener is under the radar.

Rather than going straight at the girl with a compliment, you open with a question, observation, opinion, or statement.

If she opens or hooks, you then go deeper and transition into flirtation and seduction.

Pros of Indirect: 

• It doesn’t trigger auto-rejection
• Gives you time to decide if you like her personality before flirting
• Can pass it off as just being social, rather than hitting on every girl in the cafe

Cons of Indirect: 

• Can be hard to transition from asking direction to the toilet to flirting
• It’s hard to come up with creative openers on the fly (Unless you have my Easy Openers course.)

Fundamentals of Daygame

The fundamentals of daygame are the same fundamentals in all pickup and seduction.

Body Language

The basics of good body language are as follows:

Stand up straight.

Keep your hands out of your pockets, and maintain strong eye contact. Good eye contact means you break eye contact less than she does. 

Imagine a string running through your body from your spine to the top of your head. Now pull it tight. Lift your shoulders up, back, and then down.

If she’s holding eye contact with you, there’s no reason for you to break it unless you’re using a technique like body rocking or active disinterest.

Smile. But not too much. It can make you look like a dork. However, not smiling at all makes you seem stiff. 

That’s the basics of body language. We can go deeper, but that’s another article. 

Mindset for Daygame 

Many guys feel like approaching women is weird, abnormal, or creepy. 

It isn’t. So let’s work on a better daygame mindset.

What’s actually creepy is spending your entire life staring at beautiful women but never having the courage to go introduce yourself.

I understand that most newbies have high approach anxiety, but there’s no getting around that. You have to face your fear of talking to women straight on.

For thousands of years, men have met women by approaching them.

It’s only in this abnormal time where weak men rely on technology like dating apps, which hardly ever work out anyway, that we feel approaching women is creepy. 

We’ve all been brainwashed by a feminized, soft society. It’s not wrong or weird to approach women for sex, dating and relationships. In fact, if you’re a single guy, it’s mandatory. 

The Key to Daygame Success

If you want to succeed at daygame, you’re going to have to approach a lot of women and deal with a lot of rejection.

Some women will get creeped out — that’s unavoidable. It’s really not your problem. You do the best you can to be honest, and make her feel comfortable while also being flirtatious and charming. 

If you master the fundamentals of daygame, you will rarely creep women out. In fact, you will often make their day.

Most single women dream of meeting a nice, confident man in a normal setting outside of a nightclub.

It happens so rarely that when you have the skills, women won’t be creeped out at all. They’ll be grateful you approached, and many will tell you so.

It is not illegal or immoral to approach women in the daytime.

It is completely normal — a large part of the human race wouldn’t exist if it wasn’t for men approaching women in the daytime.

You never know if the next girl you talk to at the mall or coffee shop will be your future wife.

So, be the wolf, not the sheep. 

Fashion, Fitness, and Grooming

I’ve probably coached 500 students on live boot camps, and about 10 of them had good fashion sense.

The scope of this daygame guide isn’t enough to cover everything I know about men’s fashion.

It depends on what niche you want to belong to and what niche of women you want to attract.

If you’re a rapper in a hip-hop band, then dress the part.

If you’re hanging out in downtown Manhattan looking for hipster girls, then look like a well-dressed hipster.

It also depends on the weather.

When I travel in Thailand, I can get by with a floral collared shirt, swimming trunks, and flip-flops.

In a city, your fashion sense will need to be different.

As a general rule, every man should have this in his wardrobe:

• A collared shirt
  
• A blazer
  
• Pants that fit
  
• A variety of shoes, including leather shoes, anything other than your gym shoes
  

It’s easy to know if you have fashion sense.

Has any female ever said, “Wow, you have a really good fashion sense?”

If not, then you don’t have any.

When I got into this pickup thing, I drastically changed my fashion sense.

Almost immediately, people started commenting on how well I dressed and what style I had.

Fashion is not about being comfortable.

Do you think beautiful women in heels, fancy makeup, jewelry, and styled hair are comfortable?

It’s the same for men.

The more casually you dress, the more casually you will be perceived.

The idea of fashion is not to fit in but to stand out as unique, creative, and powerful.

My advice — get a woman or a gay friend to take you shopping, and ask them not to take it easy on you.

Vocal Tonality

When you’re nervous, your vocal cords constrict.

This causes your voice to take an upward inflection, which sounds like a question.

We call this seeking rapport tonality.

Imagine a beggar asking for change: “Do you have any change?” It’s not good for seduction. It sounds like begging. It sounds like you’re lower value than she is. 

You always want to have a neutral or rapport-breaking tone.

A neutral tone is how you’d talk to another man in a normal conversation with no inflection.

A breaking rapport tonality has a downward slope — the way your boss might talk to you if he’s teasing you about being late for work.

It’s always better to have a neutral or downward tonality and avoid seeking rapport.

Strategy

Daygame is a numbers game.

Some may not like the idea of treating women like numbers and approaching as many as possible.

However, if there was a better way, I would know it.

Rejection is inevitable.

The vast majority of women are going to reject you, either softly with “Sorry, but I have a boyfriend” or more harshly.

Let’s look at realistic daygame odds.

The average sales close rate across all industries is around 2%.

That means if you approach 50 women, you might get a date with one or two.

While that seems like a lot of women to approach, it’s really not that many.

Approach five women a day — in 10 days, you could have one or two dates and maybe even get laid.

It’s no different with apps.

I’d say the close rate on apps, unless you’re in the top 5% of attractive men, is even worse. I’d say you need about 50 matches to find a girl willing to go on a date. Not 50 swipes… 50 matches! 

So, your main strategy should be to approach as many women as possible.

I like to aim for 50 a month minimum.

A lot of guys say they don’t have time because of work or other obligations.

Well, if you want amazing results with women, you’re going to have to put in an amazing amount of focus and work effort.

And that’s all there is to it.

Conclusion

This isn’t a comprehensive daygame guide. It’s just a primer. 

If you want an in-depth daygame style, then grab my book off Amazon. It’s called “I Hope It’s Sunny Out.” 

If you want over 70 hours of course material on daygame and more, sign up for my Skool Community. I have many online courses there. 

Until next time. 

Happy Daygaming. 

Tony Depp.