Happy Halloween!

It’s probably not Halloween for you, but read on anyway, or I’ll send a demon to eat your soul.

This year I noticed many men dressed as pirates, particularly the Johnny Depp version. It’s the oldest trick in the book for scoring chicks on Halloween (though I prefer being zombie Santa.) 

So then, why are women attracted to villains and monsters?

And more specifically, how can men leverage this gothic attraction to grasp their libidic attention? 

If you look at any young woman’s Netflix history, you’ll often see the same stories. Scary movies and documentaries about: 

• True Crime, especially about serial killers or stalkers who prey on women 
• Vampires of all types, but mostly the 200-year-old sparkly ones that hump 17-year-olds 
• Pirates, and particularly good-looking, bad-boy Johnny Depp types
• Werewolves, both hairy and in sexy human form 
• Ghosts and demons of all sorts 
• And other various monsters, both human and paranormal

Women are obsessed with this horror stuff. Much more so than men, who lean more towards action, sci-fi and fantasy.

Why Women Love Monsters and Villains 

Jordan Peterson shares: “Why Women Fall for Pirates and Vampires,” were he references the popularity of monsters, villains, and powerful men in women’s erotica. 

It reads as follows.

“They identified a recurring plot: an innocent, well-meaning, and attractive young woman encounters a dominant male figure. 

This male can be classified into five archetypes: vampire, werewolf, billionaire, pirate, and surgeon. Each represents a form of male dominance and aggression. The billionaire, for instance, signifies success in the male hierarchy.

The central theme across these stories is the woman’s ability to tame this dominant male figure. It resonates with the “Beauty and the Beast” narrative. Taming an already tame individual holds no allure. 

A tame partner might not be appealing or useful, especially when faced with chaotic situations. There’s an underlying desire for aggression, a trait that, while essential, needs to be civilized. 

In these romances, the archetypal female seduces and tames the aggressive male, representing her confrontation with chaos. This narrative is more convoluted for women, given the complexity of their lives.”

Do Women Fear Men, or Monsters? 

There’s a difference between taming the beast and running from an axe-wielding cannibal. 

That’s a different type of monster. The jealous, needy, insecure, and desperate.

There’s something deeply instinctual here: a fear of men in general. Because even a weak man, can be dangerous. Weak men can even be more dangerous than strong men. It’s their weakness that is frightening to women.

Still we’re mostly bigger, stronger, and if it weren’t for society holding it together, women really would be at the mercy of monsters. Just look at any war zone, where the first victims of rampaging soldiers are women. 

While she can fight, even Sarah Connor knows it’s far easier to tame a monster than fight one.

Beauty and The Beast

“There’s an underlying desire for aggression, a trait that, while essential, needs to be civilized.”

Jordan Peterson

There’s an epidemic of male weakness in modern society. If this wasn’t the case, most of what I teach would be unnecessary. 

This beauty and the beast phenomenon explains why real-life monsters like Ted Bundy receive boatloads of fan mail from adoring women. They would rather tame a murderer than mate with a soy-slurping, video game and Adderall-addicted male feminist. 

In other words, there’s no fun taming someone who’s already tame. 

This does not mean women are attracted to evil. The attraction to villains can be seen as a fascination with the raw, uninhibited power and freedom that villains represent.

Imagine yourself as a modern, attractive young woman and compare the following archetypes with your typical software engineer who spends his evenings watching Rick and Morty and arguing with other Incels on Reddit. 

Villainous Archetypes are Hot

Archetypes can be sexy, but only if they’re also heroic. Even if their heroism is misguided. Like Jack Sparrow heroically rescuing a bottle of rum.

The Outlaw: Living outside the boundaries of the law, he’s a rebel who follows his own rules, often driven by personal vendettas or the pursuit of freedom. Examples: Bandits, gangsters, mob bosses. 

The Warlord: A powerful and ruthless leader, often ruling through fear and with an army at his command. He seeks power, control, and territory. Power is sexy. 

The Cult Leader: Charismatic and manipulative, this leader attracts followers and bends them to his will, often with promises of salvation or enlightenment. 

The Assassin: A cold and calculated killer-for-hire, who operates in the shadows and can eliminate targets with precision. Think Loki, or any charismatic trickster.

The Sorcerer: Harnessing forbidden or dark magic, this character seeks power, immortality, or to bend reality to their whims.

The Corrupt Politician: Using their position for personal gain, they manipulate the system, engage in backdoor dealings, and betray the trust of the public.

The Mercenary: A warrior for hire, loyal only to the highest bidder, and often involved in wars, coups, or other violent conflicts for personal profit.

Let’s face it, villains are sexy. And from a smitten woman’s perspective, in the words of Nietzsche: “What is done out of love always takes place beyond good and evil.”

I’m not saying you should become a serial killer, or join a gang to attract women. But you should develop a dangerous aspect of yourself, something that will compel her to tame your beastly, rebellious nature. 

Even if it’s just a role play.

Fear is Scary – Tension is Romantic

Women are emotional creatures, and fear is one of the most powerful emotions. 

But it’s not the fear that excites them romantically, it’s the tension… the release of the fear. 

Terror is not seductive, but rather, tension.

Will he jump? Will he transform into a winged night creature and fly me off, to his bed, to the altar? Or will he only devour me?

It’s the release of danger, back to safety, and protection. This is pure romance.

No, you don’t need to join a Vampiric blood cult to get a girlfriend. Not yet, anyway.

You can still embody aspects of the rebel, the bad boy, the dissident, the outlaw. But just enough to eradicate weak character from your persona.

• Be unpredictable 
• Be flirtatious 
• Be somewhat aloof, mysterious
• Be emotional
• Be physically strong 
• Be intellectually dangerous 
• Be nearly uncontrollable 
• Be exciting
• Be passionate
• Be in control – unless you choose to lose it

Women Love Outlaws

Imagine a Hells Angel: a modern-day outlaw, riding free across the Americas, doing what he pleases, taking what he wants.

With a powerful beast rumbling beneath him, every new town, every hill crested, presents a new story, a fresh opportunity. And always the threat of danger, of rival gangs, or the law. 

Don’t join a gang, but you could always buy a motorcycle, take a Jiu-Jitsu class, or hit up a firing range. Do something to make yourself a little bit more dangerous. 

At least, try saying no sometimes. No more Mr. Nice Guy.

And it doesn’t have to physically dangerous. I’ve personally read over a thousand books, travelled to nearly thirty countries, and can run intellectual circles around most other men. In debates, I destroy my enemies with my mind. 

Are Monsters Misunderstood? 

Let’s look at how most “monsters” are (perceived as) misunderstood creatures, acting on instinct or in self-defence. 

While this may not account for their crimes against humanity (here’s looking at you Godzilla!), in the eyes of a smitten young woman, does it matter? No, only that she heals it, and pulls the beast back from chaos and destruction, to love and goodness. 

And how are they misunderstood?

Manifestations of Society’s Fears: Monsters embody societal fears, anxieties of their time. During periods of rapid scientific advancement, stories of Frankenstein’s monster warned of unchecked scientific ambition. The creature itself wasn’t evil; it was society’s rejection and mistreatment that turned it vengeful. Just like Russell Brand.

Misjudged Based on Appearance: Many monsters are judged solely on their appearance, which might be freakish. In “Beauty and the Beast,” the Beast’s monstrous exterior hides a kind and gentle soul. Even if it does occasionally feast upon human flesh. 

Symbols of Otherness: Monsters often represent the “other” or those who don’t fit into societal norms. Because they’re different, they’re feared and ostracized. This “otherness” can be a metaphor for racial, cultural, or societal differences. Those terrorists are just oppressed freedom fighters! 

Misunderstood Intentions: In many tales, monsters are not inherently evil but are driven to certain actions because of external circumstances. For example, a dragon hoarding gold might be doing so to protect its offspring, not out of sheer greed. Who cares if it burnt down a few villages? 

Products of Their Environment: Creatures like werewolves have no control over their monstrous transformations, and their actions while in beast form are often not reflective of their true nature or desires. Plus, they have huge wolf dicks. 

The Human-Monster Dichotomy: While the monster might commit heinous acts, humans are far more monstrous in its cruelty, prejudice, or hatred. This makes us question who the real monsters are. In the apocalypse, it’s wise to breed willingly with the leader of the goblins, rather than become his lunch. 

Cultural Misinterpretations: In some cultures, spirits of the deceased are seen as protective ancestors, while in others, they might be viewed as malevolent spirits. But does it matter what religion the poltergeist is if it gives interdimensional muff dives?

I don’t share this cardinal wisdom to mock the estranged and oppressed libido of modern women. Rather, I offer it to you, dear reader, as evidence that you are far too nice, and that’s why you’re not getting laid.

The End

By shedding just a small portion of your nice guy persona for something a bit more dangerous, a bit more beastly, you could tap into the love these women often reserve for the more dangerous men.

Become a little bit more exciting, a tad unpredictable, and add a dash of mischief, genius, and rebelliousness to your persona. Be slightly more hero than villain and these women will be yours.