Dating Multiple Women
Dating Multiple Girls.
For many guys it’s the dream: To have your cake and a few cupcakes on the side. To have more than one girlfriend. And really it’s not too difficult to attain a poly lifestyle, if that’s what you want. You just have to decide and claim it.
“I like having more than one girlfriend.”
Don’t be ashamed of it. There’s nothing wrong with that, and it’s entirely possible to attain. Many women are cool with it. Your friends and family and co-workers will scoff, but this isn’t about their life, it’s about yours. And you can have whatever you want. You can dictate your own parameters.
If you want to date multiple women, let them know early on. You don’t have to state it or anything like, “Just so you know, I date other women.” That’s just a bit harsh. I prefer to let the conversation happen organically. Usually the girl will ask first. It might be, “So, are you seeing any other girls?” Sometimes they’ll make a passive aggressive attempt. Those are usually warning signs that she’s not willing to share.
Here’s the phrase I like to use: “You do what you want, I’ll do what I want.”
Open communication is the key. Be honest about what you want and desire in your love and sex life.
Some people call this, “The Talk.”
Many women if given the option of multiple partners will accept it, but they won’t use it. They will be perfectly content if you fulfill their emotional, sexual, and social needs (hopefully not financial). But you have to be for real. You have to hold your ground. If you’re weak and wavering, she will destroy you and lock you down in monogamy.
Their fear is one of loss. Loss to prettier, smarter, younger women. But it’s not your job to worry about them. It’s your job to be the best man you can be. It’s her job to be the best woman she can be. That’s it. And any relationship rules are a contract. So design your contract wisely.
You would be surprised how many women are already in these relationships, and many enjoy the freedom. Most hot girls are, “dating,” multiple guys. And many have boyfriends that are allowed to sleep with other women. These are very confident girls, and very content boyfriends.
Chances are that since you read blogs like mine, you have more game and abundance than your average Muggle – so if you’re meeting lots of girls, eventually one will want to keep you for herself. Woot! Good job mate. But what if she won’t accept that you date other women?
My advice…let her go. There’s the door lady. Buh bye.
“But what about love? That’s not love. There should be only one!”
Ownership has nothing to do with love. Love is freedom and understanding. Loyalty is an abused term.
Men aren’t meant to be happily monogamous. And that’s why they sneak off to cheat and get fat and boring. The guilt grows and strains the relationship. It’s also my opinion that women can easily deal with sharing their man…if they try. Jealousy is immaturity. Dating multiple partners has nothing to do with disrespect.
And this is generalizing I know. But in the grand scheme of things, most people aren’t that excited by the thought of one lover forever. I know I’m not. Fuck Disneyland story time. We aren’t in our Grandparents generation.
If you want to date more than one girl, you will lose a few along the way. And when you meet your special snowflake of love she will probably be a bisexual genius of a girl, because that’s what you screened for.
And you have game right? So you can meet more. That’s something great and special and you deserve a girl that understands and supports your desires.
At some point you will grow older and your wander lust might settle. Until then, you could date multiple girls without sneaking and cheating.
And if you only want one girl, that’s fine. I support that too.
