Beta Tales: He has become clingy and desperate and it disgusts me.

I was browsing the beta stories on Reddit in r/breakups and came across this doozy, written by a disgruntled girlfriend.

There is no other way to put it. I know it sounds cold, but let’s face facts here. Yes we are highly compatible to a degree. But he has become clingy and desperate and it disgusts me. Seriously makes me want to puke. I have no patience for him. Physically he’s a good looking kid, but he is a kid, just that. Nothing more right now. He was never in a serious or otherwise in any relationship before this. We are now living in two different provinces. It’s been almost a month since he’s been gone but the feelings of being smothered have been going on for about almost 6 months or more. I know there is no easy way to break up with a person and I know that it has to be done in person. What I guess I am asking is, how do I keep my ground and not cave back into something I’m not entirely happy about?

Clingy and desperate, and it disgusts her. This is how most North American men treat women–as special snowflakes. “If I’m really nice, nicer than all the other men, and show her how much I really care, she’ll love me more.”

Errrrr, bong!!! Wrong!

Chicks don’t want a pushover. They want a man that will punish their bad behavior, act aloof, tease her, and dominate her (In a mostly psychological way).

Of course if you ask a girl this, she’ll deny it. It’s subconscious stuff, going back to the cave men, or whatever. Needy behavior, i.e needing her instinctually repulses women.

I had a small argument with my sister over this last night. It went like this:

“Men need to be more chivalrous, like, open doors for us, buy us stuff and treat us nice.” She said.

“Yeah?” I said. “Is that the kind of guy you like? Guys that do things for you, drop everything to be nice and attentive to your needs?”

“Yeah totally.” She replied.

“But that’s what you say, it’s not what you’re actually attracted to.”

“Tony! It is so. We like nice guys.”

“Is that why you’re dating an ex con who’s covered in tattoos?”

“Haha..well.”

“I remember when you told me you couldn’t stand nice guys. That you weren’t attracted to them. Your exact words were, “I don’t like nice guys.”

“Well, yeah, I said that.” She said.

“And I remember we were at the bar, and I was trying to talk to these two girls. You said, “Tony, quit trying to talk to them…just grab them!”

“Ahahaha. Yeah…I guess I did.”

“You say you want a nice, polite, attentive man, but you’re not sexually attracted to them.”

“Yeah…”

Growing up with sisters taught me a lot about women. Then again, my other sister is married to a provider, but they don’t seem too happy. They’re just stuck together because of kids. He makes good money.

The guy above was obviously living in scarcity. A man with an abundant mindset understands that he can find another woman with ease. He doesn’t get needy, desperate or clingy. The thought of his woman leaving him almost arouses excitement, the prospect of sweet, sweet freedom!

Women want to feel like they could lose you. They want to work for your affection. Don’t believe the hype. What a woman says and what she “feels” are separate entities.

They’re programmed for attraction towards alpha males. Alphas don’t get clingy. If you don’t follow the Alpha’s way, he dumps your ass for the next woman in line. Sorry. Sure things have changed in the last 400 years, but our hardwired biological instincts haven’t. Only our culture has.

I don’t feel sorry for him. I feel sorry for her.