How To Use Pre-Selection To Attract Women
I’m about to teach you the #1 most powerful tactic for commanding the attention of the hottest girls.
For this technique the best arena is in a bar, club or party. But it can also be used to get yourself out of the friend zone, or get an ex back.
But we’re primarily going to focus on the pickup stage, and focus on social settings like parties.
Hot Girls Trust Other Hot Girls
Have you ever noticed that when you are with a female, you get more attention from other women? But when you’re alone, you’re nearly invisible.
There was this restaurant I used to eat at weekly. One of the waitresses was super hot. But no matter how much I tried I just couldn’t get her attention.
Then I started dating a cute brunette and brought her to that restaurant. This girl I was dating was very into me and made it obvious. During our lunch she couldn’t keep her paws off me. The waitress noticed.
It wasn’t long before I caught the waitress shooting me flirtatious glances. The next time I ate there alone I got her number, and we eventually hooked up.
So what changed? Pre-Selection.
I was already chosen by women.
Now let me teach you how to use it so you can get the attention of the hottest girls.
What is Pre-Selection?
Pre-Selection is the idea that a man is perceived as more attractive or desirable because they’re already associated with or chosen by women, particularly attractive or high-status women.
In a woman’s mind, it means if you’re already chosen by other attractive women, it must be for a reason.
It saves her the burden of choice. And this isn’t even a conscious choice. It’s completely unconscious/hindbrain on her part.
It’s like a seduction super power.
Why Does Pre-Selection Exist?
Imagine you’re a cave woman. Life is already hard, but it’s even harder for a woman.
While the big strong men are out hunting, you’re expected to run the camp. You prepare the food, sew the clothing, care for elders, and the young.
Life without the tribe just isn’t possible. On your own, you’re likely to be enslaved by other wild men, or just die in the wild. And if you get pregnant you’re even more screwed.
So what’s the solution? Find a good man to take care of you.
But not just any man will do. You want the best man possible. Because if you make the wrong choice and team up with a loser, you’re stuck with him for your short, difficult life. Choosing the wrong man is literally life or death, especially if you get pregnant and have to carry for nine months.
So rather than hold interviews, it’s much easier to just watch which man in the tribe is already popular with the ladies. Because If they like him, it must be for a reason.
And that’s Pre-Selection.
What is Social Proof?
This is a broader psychological principle where people look to the actions or opinions of others to determine their own behavior, especially in uncertain situations. It’s about conforming to what others are doing to feel confident in a decision.
Social proof applies in many contexts, like consumer behavior, social influence, or group dynamics, not just attraction.
Think about this situation: You’re about to buy a new suit. So you go to a suit store and see hundreds of options. How do you choose?
Then you’re watching Youtube and see a video on men’s suits. In the video you see your favourite sport’s star wearing a specific suit. The video has ten million views, and thousands of comments saying how cool and handsome he looks in that suit. Done deal, you know which suit to get.
Brands use social proof in their marketing all the time. Do you really think Nike is better than Adidas? Coke better than Pepsi? Ford better than Hyundai?
People want what other people already have. They want someone more powerful, cooler, or better informed to make the decision for them.
It’s why if you have two coffee shops side by side and one has a long line up. You’ll probably go for the popular one with the line. Why else would everyone choose this coffee over the other? It must be better.
How to Use Pre-Selection and Social Proof to Pickup Girls
Ever notice how the club DJ gets all the attention from the hot girls?
What’s he doing up there? He’s pressing “play” on a laptop and pumping his fist. It doesn’t take a lot of skill, but because everyone is staring at him as the center of attention, he has social proof.
You don’t need to be a DJ to get the hot girls’ attention. You just need to be seen and heard as popular, especially with attractive women.
The other day I went to a party. There was a girl in particular I wanted to hook but she wasn’t giving me the sort of “attracted” attention I needed.
I noticed a group of attractive sexy Latina women at a nearby table. I approached them and started talking with my limited Spanish. This intrigued them and I got two of their phone numbers. But they weren’t my target. I made sure that the girl I wanted, and her friends SAW ME getting the Latinas’ contacts.
After that my girl couldn’t keep her eyes off me and it was easy to meet her. She was very warm.
Why? Because if I’m good enough for the attractive Latinas, it must be for a reason.
Always Be Seen With Women
Here are my steps when entering a party.
- Start talking to people before entering the venue. Say hello to the people in the lineup. Make friends, especially if you’re alone. Make small talk with the bouncers. This gets you in a social state, and you look better walking into the bar with people, even if you just met them (nobody knows you just met them).
- Once in the venue, continue being social. Don’t just get a drink and stand in the corner like a noob.
The key is to be social the entire night, preferably with attractive women.
That means you need to learn how to approach women. If you don’t know how, or what to say, I suggest signing up for my newsletter or buying my dating course.
Merging Groups
This is an old Jedi trick.
You need to have basic skill in cold approaching groups. Meaning you don’t shit your pants with approach anxiety every time you say hello to a woman in a bar.
This isn’t a “what to say” guide. I’m assuming you can approach a mixed set, and hold your own in conversation.
- Approach a group, hold their attention, befriend them.
- Approach another group, hold their attention, befriend them, introduce them to the previous group.
Here’s what you say in order to merge the groups:
“You have to meet my friends.”
Then you move someone from the group, or the entire group, over to the previous group and introduce them to each other.
The beauty is that neither the first, or the second group knows that you JUST MET both of them. They will just assume that the other group are your good friends.
This puts you at the center of both of the groups, as the connector. This makes you look popular. Especially if both the groups are mostly consisting of girls.
Building Attraction in Groups
Now you’ve merged the groups. Let’s assume there’s one or more super hotties in these groups. How do you get their attention?
Your social proof is already sky high since you appear popular (merging groups.) Now you have to trigger their pre-selection.
This is where having some “Game” comes in handy.
All you need is for one of the girl to start giving out attraction signals. To understand when a girl is attracted to you, read “When is a girl comfortable with you?”
Because if one girl is attracted to you, it will trigger pre-selection, and then ALL of the girls will be interested.
Note* But that doesn’t mean you should flirt with the “big” girl. In my experience if the hot girls see the fatty is finally getting attention, they will back off and practically ignore you. They want their friend who is almost always ignored by men to finally get laid.
Once you have attraction from the hot girls, then you can simply drop the girl you’re flirting with, and switch your attention to them.
Conclusion
And that’s about it.
Use Pre-Selection and Social proof to dominate any social situation.
It’s simple:
Be seen as popular by always talking to people, but especially with hot girls.
Introduce yourself to multiple groups, and then “merge” by introducing them to each other. “You have to meet my friends.”
Look for signs of attraction, or what we call IOI’s, from any of the girls. Flirt with them, and then move onto the girls you really want to meet.
And also…
Always ask the groups you approach: “How do you all know each other?”
This will give you the logistics of the group. You don’t want to start hitting on some dude’s girlfriend and get kicked out of the group. Also, that “couple” may actually just be co-workers, or cousins. You never know.
Have fun with it.
Tony Depp
