Women are not Objects

There’s a misconception that this is a blog about how to get laid by numerous, soulless bodies. I want to make it clear: I respect women. I do not hate women. Women are not objects except for the fact that they occupy time and space.

Women have passions, dreams, ambitions, philosophies and talents. I don’t promote hate. I promote love. However I’m a writer, and I’m a bit cynical, like a lot of my favourite authors, so when something bothers me I’m going to write about it. And if men need help meeting women, I’m going to help them. But there is a lot more to life than chasing girls.

Man, you girls can be frustrating. And we’re pretty clueless when it comes to attracting, and keeping you. I just want us all to be…better, happier.

I decided a long time ago I would not pursue any women that I did not want to see more than once. I’m not into hurting people, but sometimes shit happens. That’s why I have to approach so many women to get a date, because I’m picky, I shoot out of my league. I have to work my ass off to land the girls I like, and I deal with loads of rejection. That’s what my novel is about.

I only have about five years of monogamous girlfriend experience, and I’m still friends with every single girlfriend I’ve ever had, and many that I slept with. I have many female friends whom I did not sleep with, nor will I ever, because I appreciate their friendship as it adds great value to my life.

Women are amazing listeners. Where a male friend will give you a slap on the back and say, “There there. Don’t be a pussy.” A girl will dive in and dissect your issues, lingering on the emotional minutiae, supporting, healing your wounds and giving counsel. And if you are really good friends, sometimes you can scratch each others backs. Just don’t expect them to give you useful advice on meeting other women. Instead, ask them to introduce you. Even if you’re a notorious womanizer, if they love you, they’ll hook you up.

I also have gay friends, black friends, asian friends, brown friends, leftist friends, conservative friends. Friends are good, and you should develop as many social alliances as possible. It’s not hard to make friends, just give them value: Listen to their problems, help them move their furniture, go to their hockey games, check out their bands, give them footrubs. They’ll remember your support, and will become loyal advisors.

The few serious relationships I’ve had were very rewarding. Having a girl that supports your goals and ambitions, that remains by your side through hardships, like when you end up in the media and half the city wants to beat you up, is priceless.

Learning how to pickup girls is a skill, not a lifestyle. If you want to eventually partner up, you have a lifestyle choice: Monogamous, or Polyamorous. My lifestyle of late has involved travel, which isn’t great for relationships that last longer than a week. It really sucks when you meet a great girl, and she’s going left while you’re heading right. These flings are short, passionate, and usually end on a high note. But they can be draining, and leave you emotionally crippled—for a day or two. But it’s much better than being trapped in a shitty, abusive relationship because you have no other options, or no clue how to manifest them. Not until next years staff Christmas Party.

The last year I spent in Vancouver, before I went back to Asia, I had three girls in my life. They all knew I was seeing other women, and they were cool with it. There was no lying, or manipulation. I just told them, “I like you a lot, but I’m not into monogamy right now.” You’d be surprised how far straight talk can get you.

Polyamory is a perfect lifestyle choice for the guy who wants the support and love of a loyal lover, while also satiating the male need for sexual variety. This is why bi-sexual girls are perfect. They can help you out.

I don’t approach and date many women to place notches on my bed—I do it to find the right girls. To find my version of love. A good girl is hard to find, but finding yourself is even harder.