Writing About Women

It’s been really hard for me to come up with content lately.

The reason being…I don’t think about pickup, or dating, or women much at all. 

I used to yes. A lot. And it was fun. But not anymore. (I still admire them…often.)

I just don’t really think about it until I go, “I guess I need to write a blog post.”

I don’t hang often hang out with guys in the pickup scene. I hang out with my friends, or with girlfriends. Nothing against those guys, I’m just not that into it anymore. 

I don’t go out to do approaches, unless I’m being paid to teach someone. I just talk to people if I want to. I flirt with them if I want to. Go on dates if I can. Go to parties if I’m invited. Read books, ride my bike, take long trips. Normal person stuff. 

I don’t go to bars and parties to chase girls much, because it’s like a video game I’ve played too many times.

It’s a fun game to pick up women. It’s exciting stuff. But if I go to a bar it’s because my friends are there, or I feel like a beer. The women are a given. They are half the population.

I rarely watch instructional videos on Youtube, or read books about seduction, because I’ve been there, done that. Nothing I could read would make me better than I am.

I’ve had some amazing relationships and sexual experiences with beautiful women from all over the world. I did it.

I spent a decade studying that stuff, writing about it, and teaching it. It’s done for me, for now. 

I got what I needed—life experience.

I don’t even consider myself, “Good with women.” I’m normal. I teach guys how to be normal. After all, what normal, fun, social, success focused man, shouldn’t be incredibly attractive to women?

Philosophically speaking, studying sexuality and our reactions to seduction technique only leads to sociology. Do I want to go there? To write about why we are so divided, lonely, insecure and confused? That would lead to politics, and I don’t want to be involved with the culture war either, as that all ties to sexuality and is overwhelmingly depressing.

I am interested in sociology, as well as communications. But that doesn’t sell bootcamps.

And relationships? I will write about that, but inside fiction, where the reader can form a personal interpretation. I’m no preacher. My relationships are personal. I save that for novels. I’m not ready to broadcast those views to the Internet. Love makes for great poetry. But I don’t want a philosophy on relationships. They aren’t algorithms to be hacked. They’re experiences.

Ultimately, you should learn this stuff to solve a problem:

You want more, or better women in your life. You want to get laid. You want a girlfriend. You want to overcome anxiety, or just escape boredom and bring more adventure into your life.

So that’s what I did. And for a long time, I found it all very fascinating. It worked.

Seduction is not something you do: It is who you are.

It is not a trick, or a manipulation, or wizardry. It’s just you doing what a man should do. Not giving a fuck what anyone thinks about that. Not falling prey to politically correct social conditioning, taking action and making shit happen. That’s it.

Knowledge, focus, belief and action…

Leads to wisdom, ideally.

There are teachers who focus on the dark arts, but I am not one of them. (You’re like…what are the dark arts?)

They are called “liars.”

My philosophy has always been this:

• I am me.
• I am the best me I can be right now. I have faults and personal issues, like other people. But I acknowledge them, and I am working on them. 
• If you like me, that’s great, I will move things forward like a man should. If you don’t like me that’s fine too.
• I have a dick, I like women, and I’m not ashamed of that.

The vast majority of men have only a few problems here:

• Approach anxiety.
• Fear or a blockage of self-expression (i.e. not knowing what to say.)
• Ego/Rampant Eternal Chatter
• Unattractive behaviour/style/grooming/body language
• General insecurity: Sexual or social.

Those are all the boxes I had to tick off. I went deep in the rabbit hole, and came out the other side.

Trust me…if there was a hypnotic routine that would cause super models to be uncontrollably attracted to me, I would use it, and share it freely with the world!

Oh wait…that’s fame.

A friend of mine said to me, “The better you become at something, the harder it is to teach it.”

And it’s true, because once you learn a skill it become a part of you, rather than something you do.

You learn guitar and eventually you are a musician.

You learn a sport and eventually you are athletic.

You learn pickup and seduction and eventually you are a healthy, confident adult male.

Understand that there will never be a point that you will say, “Ahhh I’ve finally made it.”

But there may come a point where you say, “I’m rather tired of this subject and would like to explore new philosophies.”

I won’t be teaching seduction for the rest of my life. I’m already exploring new ideas and avenues for income generation. But I’ll say this to you guys: If you are struggling, lonely, bored, or desperate…just look outside. Open your door. The whole world is right there.

It’s up to you to get off your ass and go make something great happen. You can only do it for yourself. If you want to try something new, go for it. 

Have fun.