Push Pull Seduction

In any dance, there is a push, and a pull. The man leads, taking her pretty hands, pulling her in close, and then pushing her out. The push creates anticipation for the pull, and the pull being pushed back again increases sexual tension. The couple is never fully satisfied. You can’t enjoy the embrace completely because it does not last. The same technique should be utilized in verbal seduction.

I was having a coffee today and the server was a knockout cutie pie. As soon as we made eye contact I did not hesitate to pull out my headphones and say, “Hi. Are you from this town?” She was. I asked her if she went to school here, and she said she was studying dance. I asked her if her legs were hard as diamond, and elicited a giggle. “Yeah that’s a side effect of dancing.” She said.

“I want to learn salsa. Do you know salsa?” I asked.

“No, I haven’t tried it yet.”

“Well, we should be salsa partners. I’m going to sign up for a few free lessons. What do you say?”

“Ok, sure.”

“So what’s your Facebook?”

Up to this point, the interaction had been all pull, and no push. There was no flirtation, or sexual tension. It had been an indirect opener, and an indirect seduction. It was still friend to friend.

I found her picture on Facebook. It looked like she was screaming or putting on a funny face for the photo. “You look crazy in that picture. You’re not crazy are you?” (Push)

She hesitated for a second, smiled coyly and said, “I am crazy.”

“Uh oh.” I said. “oh man.” I let this hang for three seconds. “That’s ok. I like crazy.”

Until this point the conversation was very platonic. Very friendly. The comment about her appearing “crazy” was the push. She could have said, “I’m not crazy,” or “You’re the crazy one.” Instead she said that she actually was crazy and I played along. I followed this with a pull: “I like crazy.”

If all you do is pull “I like you,” You’re so pretty,” “You’re the best,” then many women will bore of the flirtation.

It’s not that difficult to spark attraction when you utilize a little push pull. It can be as extreme as yelling at a girl, telling her she’s a slut with daddy issues (playful teasing, not serious), to tickling her and telling her she’s too ticklish to be your girlfriend. When you’re on a date you could look in a pet store window and say “Which puppy is your favourite?” When she say’s “The white one,” you say “Oh. I see. Well then. Ummm. I don’t think we can date anymore.” And then pretend to walk away. A smart girl will realize this is ridiculous, and usually laugh, or play along by chasing you. If she’s sassy she might say, “Fine, whatever.” I prefer option one.

You might be staying in to watch a movie. As you’re scanning through the options you might give her a choice of say Titanic, or The Matrix. When she says “Titanic,” you look at her without blinking, point to the door and say, “Get out.” Again, a smart girl will laugh, and punch your chest, or roll her eyes and say, “Whatever.”

The man who is totally agreeable, who never teases, who never pushes, is booooooring. Seducing a girl is about eliciting her emotions. The easiest way to elicit emotions is to create a little bit of harmless drama. Push Pull achieves this goal. Have fun with it.

***I was interviewed on CKNW about my job as a pickup artist. Check it out!***