How To Be The Center of Attention

If you want to be good at meeting women in a parties, bars, or clubs, you should get used to being the centre of attention.

You will have nights when if you’re doing very well, and you may have women competing over you. You may have men who are jealous of you, and people will act strangely around you.

This is normal for players, and if you’re not comfortable in this situation, you will lose your power and momentum. It will crumble like a wall of playing cards. This is because you don’t have the foundation to hold onto such social power…yet.

Holding court, is like riding a bull; it’s easy to fall off. When you have everyone’s eyes and ears on you, and you fail to maintain the attention, it will scatter to the next shiny object.

When you have the attention of all those around you and you are seen in a positive way, you want to bask in it. Don’t shy away. People want you to be that guy. They want you to win — because this is like watching a magician pull rabbits from his sleeve. It’s amazing and rare to behold.

You will have nights where nobody even looks at you

And as a man, you will approach many, many women in the hopes of scoring a beauty for a night or longer. Some nights you will be rejected, ignored, mocked and driven to near despair. This is good. This is so that on your night out, when you’re the man, you can enjoy the fruits of your hard earned charm.

A time will come when you are number one, and all the focus will be on you, and the women will fawn over you, sit on your lap, give you their numbers and compete for your attention. The men will be envious, and buy you drinks and toast to your success. You might want to crawl away and hide, disgusted at the phoniness of it all. The superficiality and predictability of human nature. This isn’t you, this is fake you will think.

When this happens, you must embrace the experience. You asked for this. You worked for this.

The introvert inside of you will not understand

It will want to shy away to a dark corner and stare back in confusion and disgust. This is fine, because being the centre takes practice. Just realize this is happening. You’re changing. You’re becoming the extrovert. It won’t last forever. Maybe ten minutes, maybe an hour or a day.

People want you to be that guy. They want you to lead them to happiness. They want to be entertained. They want to live vicariously through your social and seductive power.

It will feel like being a beautiful woman

Women will have become the pursuers, and you might feel emasculated. Like you are now the woman. This is good. This is what you want.

Celebrities experience this feeling, and for some, it makes them go crazy. Some embrace and bask in it, and some become horribly depressed.

When everyone is chasing you, understand that it won’t always be like this. Allow the experience to happen and enjoy every minute of it. Be like a rising star that is set to fall inevitably behind the horizon.

Shine bright.