Breaking All The Rules of Seduction

I have a friend, a real ladies man.

He breaks so many of our seduction laws that he should be living the life of a hermetic monk. But he isn’t a monk, he’s one of the greatest seducers I’ve ever known. Though he’s never read a blog post, or an ebook, or watched a dvd.

When he talks to women he uses a very approval seeking tone, and say’s things like, “That’s so cool!” when things aren’t that cool. Example:

Him: “What do you do?”

Her: “I’m a student.”

Him: “What do you study?”

Her: “I study international business.”

Him: “That’s so cool!”

I teach my clients never to say something is so cool with great enthusiasm, unless it actually is. But he does this all the time, and the women still like him.

He say’s dumb things that make no sense.

Girl: “Where are you from?”

Him: “I’m from Canada. You know that place that’s really hot, and everybody is wearing parkas.”

Her: “Oh yeah?”

Him: “Yeah. Why do you like guys from Canada so much huh? Huh?” Then he winks.

I teach my students to never be cheesy, and to always say things that make sense in context to the situation.

But he only gets this right about fifty percent of the time. But the girls still like him.

He shows how eager he is to meet them. When he meets a girl he starts complimenting her on her hair, her prettiness, and he adds them on Facebook as fast as possible. As soon as he has a moment away from the girl, he starts sending messages and asking for a meet. And yet, even though this comes off as needy, the girls want to meet him.

I teach my students to never appear overly eager, and to not over compliment until the woman has earned it by investing some of her energy into you. And yet, my friend has already slept with four beautiful women in the first two weeks with me in Asia. And they were all white girls from first world countries.

So, how is he able to break all the rules and completely annoy me by being a vagina bandit?

He’s always happy. He laughs all the time, and has loads of positive energy. If you’re like this, and you make people feel happy and good around you, they will want to spend more time with you. So many of my students are brooding, introverted little men who spend far too much time analyzing situations, and not enough time having fun with other humans

He’s talkative. He never runs out of things to say, even if what he’s saying can be sort of dumb, he has his moments of brilliance. He’s proven to me that it really doesn’t matter what you say as long as you keep talking and laugh a lot.

He’s handsome and well dressed. He has great hair; the perfect not too fat, not too skinny physique that women love. He has some asian descent that comes out as a perfect, year round suntan. He is covered in tattoos and though he’s super friendly, looks like a bad boy. His looks are the ultimate game.

He’s smart, but simple. He doesn’t challenge people, he doesn’t get into arguments over petty conversations and he’s just plain fun to be around.

On the other hand…

He teases the girls. Example: When they sit in a hammock he warns them not to break it by being so fat. Note: Only use this humour on very skinny and attractive girls.

He is playful and fun, and always positive. I rarely hear him complain except when there’s no wifi at the resort.

He’s aggressive. When he meets a girl he’s attracted to, he moves fast and does everything he can to get in her pants as fast as possible.

He’s physical early. He has no sexual shame, and no fear of touching a girl on the hand, the leg, or the lips.

He’s confident. He doesn’t get bouts of extreme insecurity. He’s been with too many beautiful women in his life to care about such nonsense.

I love my friend dearly. He’s incredibly loyal, and hanging out with him has been illuminating for me. I’ve read loads and loads of books on pickup, dating and seduction, and I’ve broken most of the rules I’ve read myself. So I just want you readers to understand that just because something is written down, doesn’t mean it’s true.

***I’m just deciding where to go next. I’ll either go to Vietnam or Philippines for January. I’ll be back in Canada and the States in January so contact me for infield approach coaching in your city.***