Why You Fail

Most of you will fail.

You will never, ever, get good at picking up, and likely never land the girl of your dreams.

Not because you aren’t good looking enough, rich enough, or the right race. The answer is simple.

You will give up.

When a player is out to pickup, he doesn’t go home at eleven because he’s tired, or has a sore back, or he’s hungry or out of state. He stays out to approach women until the bitter end. That might be 4:30 am, or later.

When he tries to kiss a girl and she turns her cheek, he doesn’t walk away—he talks for another minute, and tries again.

When he tries to bounce her from the club to the after party and she says, “Take my number and call me later,” he says, “No. Come now. Come to the after party. It will be amazing.”

When he asks for her number and she says, “I have a boyfriend,” he says, “Let’s be friends then. What’s your number?”

When he runs out of things to say, he does not leave the interaction, but stays there, and let’s her do the talking until he has something to say. He does not leave until she walks away or tells him to go away.

Pickup is a sales gig. But your product is so popular, so in-demand, that you get to choose the buyer. Your buyer will often be skeptical and have much trepidation about your product. It’s your job to ease her fears.

She is wondering:

“Is he a real man? Or a needy, weird, loser?”

“Will my friends think I’m a slut if I leave with him?”

“Will he think I’m a slut if I make this too easy?”

“What if the guy I’m dating finds out?”

All of these doubts and fears will manifest in what appears to be a lack of interest. This is why you STAY IN THE INTERACTION until she tells you to, “Go Away.” (At least while you are a newbie).

And if she tells you to go away, you laugh it off, excuse yourself politely, turn around and approach the next girl.

I’ve spent the last seven months, several hours a day on my novel. I’ve already re-written the book three times. I would love nothing more than to slap a cover on it, publish the damn thing and move on with my life. But here’s the problem…

It’s not good enough yet.

I gave out several copies to my friends, and even though they loved it, they want deeper characters, richer descriptions, more vived emotional detail. Sometimes I want to throw in the towel and walk away from it. My thought process is like this, “It will never be done. I’m tired of trying. I’m not a good enough writer. This is taking too long.” I know that this project might take another year, or maybe another two years.

It doesn’t matter. All that matters is that I don’t quit until it is done. Until the book destroys me and I can’t stand to look at it one more time.

Game is the same. When I go out, I stay out until 4:30, until every last girl is off the street. When I hook a hottie I try to kiss her until she submits or runs away. I stay in the interaction until she tells me to leave.

This is the process. And this is why I rarely have girls tell me to go away. This is why I can date hot girls. This is how I can write a 60,000 word book that doesn’t suck.

This is why most of you will fail, because you aren’t willing to stick it out until the very end. How else are you supposed to learn from your mistakes, and grow?

***I will be in Arizona running bootcamps all of October 2012. If you are in Phoenix, Scottsdale, or Las Vegas and looking for coaching, give me a shout.***