A while ago I met a girl at the mall. She was sitting in one of these little booths and she attempted to hawk me her Ion powered bracelets. I tried one on and asked her, “If I cover my entire body in bracelets, will it give me super powers?”

She laughed at all my stupid jokes, so I ate some curry chicken at the food court and returned for her number. She quit painting her nails and hopped up to finish her sales pitch.

“Look,” I said. “I don’t give a crap about your bracelets, but I think you’re awesome. We should hang out.”

“Ohh, ok.” She said, and wrote her phone number on a business card and handed it to me.

Over the next two weeks we texted each other four or five times a day. But she was leaving soon, in two months, returning to her home town…forever. Still, she was very eager to see me even though she worked two jobs, six days a week. So we kept texting and trying to arrange a date that would work; but either I was working, or she was.

Then finally, after two weeks, the day came. We were set to meet at two pm for drinks and a trip to the beach. One hour before our meet she texted me:

“Just so you know, I’m not looking to date anyone. I just want more friends.”

I let her know that I was fine with just being friends…that fuck. Because I was set to go travelling as well. I told her I’m far too busy to walk around chatting. I have a business to run, a book and a blog to write.

She assured me she wasn’t horny, and that she just wanted friends.

“I don’t need any more friends. I need romantic adventure.” I said.

And that was that.

Should I have met her, perhaps become her friend? Some would argue that this would give me access to all of her social circle, and her infinite wisdom. I suppose that is one option.

But I just want romance, lust and adventure. Maybe this winter when I’m cold and bored I’ll need more friends.

Most beta men will befriend a girl in hopes of one day getting into her pants. They get stuck in a cycle of “friendships” that go nowhere. The girl says “I don’t want to date anyone,” and then a few weeks later she meets a guy at a party and sucks his dick in the bathroom. It’s bullshit.

They do want to date someone; they just don’t want to date YOU.

So it’s better to move on and find a girl that won’t waste your time. Because you are a man, not a girlfriend.

If you desperately want to fuck her and she’s not reciprocating, it’s best to let her go. If you make friends with girls, it’s best to be girls you’ve already fucked, or don’t want to fuck. But then, those girls that you don’t want to fuck probably want to fuck you. So it’s a constant cycle of vicious power struggles.

Sometimes you should just let them go. There are plenty of lonely men that are willing to be a pretty girl’s friend. Unless you have plenty of time to “hang out.” Most of the successful men I know are too busy to go window shopping or lounge on  beaches sipping iced mocha’s with platonic lady friends.