The Seduction Industry Has Changed

There’s been a major shift in the seduction industry. A lot of the old methods involved cocky and funny teasing, negs, backturns, demonstrations of value and hypnotic language. It all helped. It also turned a lot of nice normal men into approach machine weirdo’s…myself included.

Then a small voice within the community grew to a giant roar. The roar yelled, “Don’t be phony! Don’t be weird!” And there was born the, “natural method.”

The natural method is almost as complex as a tactics and techniques based approach. A dating coach writing about natural method is almost as cliché as, “Just be yourself.” But just being yourself is often the truth.

I’ve had a lot of women tell me I’m, “weird.” My whole life I’ve re-framed this statement to mean, “You’re funny.” My standard response is, “Weird is better than boring.” However as I’ve been dating better looking, more experienced and confident women, I’ve noticed this statement means something different.

I sent a girl a text that said, “I would go for coffee with you if I wasn’t so gay.” I ended up dating this girl, but she asked me why I would send such a weird message. I told her I was just messing around. But the reality was I was still, “trying,” to impress her. It’s very subtle. Part of me still believes I’m not good enough for beautiful women, and must be extra funny, unique or weird.

When you’ve been in the game long enough, and date enough women you start to see a pattern: The less you try, the better you do. You are already good enough, just being yourself.

So who is yourself? Obviously this hasn’t worked so far, or else you wouldn’t be here. There is an old saying, “Be your best self.” I really like this. But you can’t always be healthy, happy, witty and charming. Sometimes things are just off. Sometimes you don’t have shit to say.

Picking up quality women doesn’t have to be this difficult chore. Realize that every woman has her own game. Sometimes you just need to shut the fuck up, and let her seduce you. YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. STOP PRETENDING AND ACCEPT SHE LIKES YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE.

As simple as this sounds, a newbie that hasn’t touched a boob in a year will have a different comprehension than a guy that has been practicing cold approach pickup for two or more years. With every success or failure you learn. But you just won’t grow unless you get out there and try.

When I started in the game, I would approach women and say the weirdest shit. It would make them giggle or I would get weird looks. To this day I still enjoy messing with women. But there comes a point where your weird jokes are unnecessary. You don’t need any stupid joke or insightful comment. All you need to do is shut up and be cool. Let the girl pick you up.

Being natural is very close to being Zen. In the famous novel “Siddhartha” by Herman Hesse, a young monk leaves the safety of his commune to travel the land. Even though he is guaranteed a safe life of prestige, and a quick path to guru status, he rejects the comfort and ventures forth to experience women, wealth, travel and debauchery. This man was the Buddha.

He knew that the experience of being human was the true path to enlightenment. Not just the books, the lectures, or even belief.

In order to become a natural seducer, a confident man, you will have to expose yourself to uncomfortable situations. You’ll need to be rejected, humiliated, teased and laughed at. And all those women that reject you…you THANK THEM. They are the ultimate teachers in this game.