The One Trick My Mentor Taught Me About Attracting Beautiful Women
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I actually do have a powerful idea for you.
First, let me tell you about my friend Greg.
Greg The Natural
Back when I used to suck with women, My roommate Greg, an artist, was usually banging three or four women at a time. He was incredibly social and outgoing. Greg was what I call a “Connector.”
Connectors are natural extroverts who are drawn to discovering people’s talents, and then connecting them with like minded peers. Or if they meet someone without a specific talent, they will find out their interests and hobbies, then facilitate meeting people to further those interests.
For example, I used to play in a band, and work as a music journalist. When I met Greg, he got very excited and said “You need to meet my friend from Eagles of Death Metal.” This was quite a famous band. He knew loads of semi famous musicians, and it really helped me to network, find gigs, and get interviews for the magazine.
What did Greg get in return? He enjoyed doing what he enjoyed doing… meeting interesting people and having sex with beautiful women.
The Connector
For connectors, it’s all about who you know, and the social opportunity that provides.
But that’s not the secret he taught me. I’m not a natural connector, and never will be.
For instance, Greg saw how pissed off I’d get, how frustrated when things didn’t work out. If a girl flaked on meeting up with me, or didn’t text me back, I’d carry that tension for days.
So one time I was whining about another girl that flaked. He said this:
“Tony, here’s my secret.”
“What is it sensei?”
“Always be positive.”
“Just be positive… that’s it?”
“Yes. Women love positive men. You can’t feel bad around them. You have to feel good, and they’ll all want to be with you.”
So… be happy. That’s all? I thought. Okay, I’ve heard it before. But how could I apply this theory? How could I make it look like I was a positive person?
The Positivity Roller-Coaster
If you’ve ever put serious time and effort into trying to pickup women, then you know how frustrating it can be. Not just frustrating, but completely soul-crushing, and demoralizing.
What happens when you approach a strange and beautiful woman? Usually it goes like this:
- Excitement (She’s hot!)
- Fear (What if she’s not friendly?)
- Adrenaline (Here I go…)
- Increased heart rate (I’m doing it!)
- Anxiousness (I’m shaking and stuttering…)
- Relief (She’s friendly!?)
- Dopamine (She’s really friendly!)
- Or, she rejects you. Sometimes brutally. Which leads to disappointment and an emotional state crash.
Now, subject yourself to that rollercoaster dozens of times a day, or night, for months, without getting the girl, and try to stay positive.
Maintaining Your Vibe
Looking back, I can’t imagine being that guy again. When I approach a woman I just switch on my positivity. I call it, “vibe.” It’s automatic.
Try it now. Close your eyes, and tell yourself, “I feel great.”
I’m serious. Stop reading and try it.
Okay.
Notice how your emotional state changes, just by telling it to?
If you carry that feeling when you’re interacting with women, that, “awesome,” feeling of happiness is contagious, and addictive.
Mirror Neurons
We’re all wired with mirror neurons. I won’t get all sciency, but the theory is we have these transmitters/receivers that affect our visual learning and empathy.
Women (in theory) are more empathetically wired for things like communicating with children, and group social dynamics. Men don’t need to access this as much for empathy, as much as detecting, or communicating threat (this is my own theory).
Why? Because women raise babies, men kill animals.
So, if you’re in a bar and you approach a hottie, then some meathead gets up in your grill all aggressive like… you’re probably going to feel a rush of adrenaline, and emotion. Likely rage. That’s how many fights start for no logical reason.
While part of that rage may be from your ego, most if it is simply your empathy. You see the meatheads body language, and mirror it, automatically, and unconsciously.
Now imagine you approach a girl, and you’re feeling anxious, depressed, or fearful. But you’re sucking in your gut and going for it anyway… because you’re a man, dammit!
Will she be reflecting your love, joy, and confidence? No. Because you’re not truly positive. You aren’t following Greg’s rule at all. You’re already expecting to fail, but going through the motions anyway.
Rejection – The Ultimate Emotional Baggage
If you’re facing years of painful rejections, and hoping that the next game technique is going to fix it, the next book, or YouTube video, you’ll continue to be disappointed.
It’s going to suck. But how you interpret these experiences, will make the difference.
Back to me…
For a long time I just plowed on, trying to pump up my emotional state, and enduring flake, after flake, and sometimes getting the girl, only to immediately move onto chasing the next.
More rejections, more almosts, more disappointments, frustrations…
I began reading MGTOW, and Redpill, watching Youtubers who told me, it’s not my fault… it’s the women, and their stupid woman psychology. Move to Europe, or Asia, and things will be way better, because the women are better there.
While the women found in foreign lands are amazing, I still struggled back home. I was carrying around a grudge. All of this rejection and negative philosophy created what I’d consider, an emotional post-traumatic pickup stress disorder.
What made it worse, was that approaching women, or going to bars, triggered strong negative associations. But I’d fake being happy, and go for it anyway. The results were the same. Women could sense I wasn’t really positive at all.
The Remedy
What started as a debauched journey of partying, and having sex with as many beautiful women as possible, turned into a semi-toxic life philosophy with diminishing returns.
I stepped back from chasing women, to work on a different area of my life. Mainly, spirituality, family, health, and career.
- I spent more time working on my coaching business.
- I got a gym pass and worked out at least three times a week.
- I made an effort to re-connect with friends and neglected family.
- I developed deeper bonds and friendships.
- I disconnected from certain friends that were influencing me negatively.
I did this for almost a year, and chased no women. I had no sex, and I didn’t party. It was a year of reading, exercising, meditating, creating, and being a normal guy. Not a pickup artist.
Note, that all this came after I’d had tremendous, “success,” with picking up women. But I no longer enjoyed socializing. I’d lost the love of it. It just felt like a chore.
It wasn’t until I found more success as a man in other parts of my life, that the dating aspect became truly realized.
Rebirth
After this year of personal development, I decided I’d start again. The difference was drastic.
I wasn’t just thinking positively, trying to put myself into a higher emotional state to attract women. I was more positive.
I was a happier, more content person. When I approached women, I didn’t have to fake a vibe, and use techniques to connect with them. I was just vibrating on a different level, and women felt it. They were drawn to me.
To this day, I’m still incredibly good at seduction. I don’t use the powers as often, as I’m hitting the age where I prefer camping to night clubs. But I’ll give you the regimen that transformed my life, and improved my game.
Alan Watts
Alan Watts was probably my main teacher. Check out some of his wisdom.
“We seldom realize, for example that our most private thoughts and emotions are not actually our own. For we think in terms of languages and images which we did not invent, but which were given to us by our society.”
Alan Watts
He’s talking about social conditioning.
“The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves.” — Alan Watts
And yet most of us forget to live.
“You are an aperture through which the universe is looking at and exploring itself.”
Alan Watts
He helped me develop a philosophy for life after death.
Definitely check him out.
His wisdom gave me a truly different perspective.
Purpose with Passion
For years, I didn’t want to teach pickup anymore. I didn’t relate to it. I felt it was corny, and a boring subject I no longer wished to explore.
I also dreaded getting a real job. But I tried it anyway. I went back to the film industry, and it was fun for a while. I tried labor, and freelance writing. But I found my real passion, was self-development, psychology, and helping people escape misery.
The dating niche is a great gateway drug to finding deeper meaning. Since I’ve embraced it again, I’m finding plenty of clients. I’ve improved every aspect of myself, and can now travel as a digital nomad. So far, I’ve been to nineteen countries and counting.
But my favorite trip so far, was returning home to reconnect with my family. It also gave me gratitude, for this job that allows me such freedom, that I can visit anywhere I want, anytime.
Having a sense of purpose, even if it’s temporary, will fill you with pride, and contentment. Women feel that, and want to be a part of it.
If you’re just blowing in the wind, find yourself a purpose. It doesn’t have to be forever. Just pick something, at least for now.
Self-Esteem
Self-Esteem is simple: you like who you are, and feel good about yourself. You have an easy going, can-do attitude.
This may sound basic, but for most people it’s incredibly difficult. A lot of men think they have high self-esteem, when what they really have, is a very loud ego.
By focusing on myself, and not just my social and flirtation skills, I became a more valuable person to those around me, and to myself.
Ego Awareness
Ego is that little voice that is chirp, chirping in your ear. He’s telling you all sorts of bullshit.
When you study, and realize what your ego is, its function, and how it’s holding you back from achieving true positivity, your success with women will soar.
The best book on the subject (I know of) is: A New Earth, by Eckhart Tolle.
“The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, special abilities, relationships, person and family history, belief systems, and often nationalistic, racial, religious, and other collective identifications. None of these is you.”
Eckhart Tolle
He taught me to stop identifying with roles, or to at least realize by adopting labels, or roles, I’m just playing a game.
The result of learning about ego, is you start listening less to the inner dialogue, and become more in touch with your true-self. You learn to follow your heart, rather than your head.
You’ve always heard you shouldn’t care what people think of you. This teaches you how to actually be that person.
Get Into Nature
I’ve spent a lot of time in Canadian nature, taking days long walks, camping without Internet service.
You may think hiking is a pleasant, relaxing way to spend time in nature. It can be. But it’s also sketchy, exhausting, dangerous and at times, exhilarating.
Being in nature gives you time to unplug and focus on what being alive actually means. You don’t have time for the bullshit. You need to climb that huge hill covered in sharp rocks, surrounded by trees, bugs, and creatures that might eat you. You need to get firewood, set up camp, and hang your food so bears don’t get it. You have to pay attention so you don’t get lost, and die.
You learn what it means to be, “in the now.”
And when you emerge from nature, back into society, it gives you perspective. Something like being anxious about, “what to say,” becomes a lot less worrisome.
Meditation
You’ve heard of it. Silicon Valley nerds do it, monks do it, and so should you.
Meditation has changed my life in wondrous ways. It’s hard to describe exactly how, but it’s made me into a more centred, abundant, happy, grateful, and peaceful person.
It also made me better better socially, and with women.
My meditation technique is simple:
- Close your eyes, tell your body to relax.
- Count ten stairs, and walk down them, doubling your relaxation every step.
- At the bottom, sit in a dark room (in your mind) and don’t think.
- If you find yourself thinking, go down more stairs.
- Eventually your mind will be quiet. This usually takes at least fifteen minutes.
From that quiet space, you can do all sorts of things. You can run simulations, create new models of being, find forgotten memories, reprogram belief systems, or just sit in silence.
It really makes a huge difference when you’re flirting with women. But it takes time. Don’t expect to meditate once, and then be totally Zen. It doesn’t work like that.
Exercise
I’ve been slacking off here, and I feel it. But today I vow to get back to lifting, running, and yoga.
When you’re in shape, you just feel like a beast, and women can tell. You don’t even have to look like one. Just feeling like you could crush a mans skull with your bare hands is enough to get any woman moist in your presence.
Reading Deeply
When you’re reading a lot of great books, it feels like the equivalent of having an intellectual six pack.
All these men who worry about not knowing what to say. I guarantee you, if you read a few great books a month, you’ll never be out of things to talk about. It will naturally just burst out of your subconscious.
Knowledge begs to be shared.
Don’t just read. Take notes, discuss the ideas. Really, truly learn something new.
When I’m reading great books, I feel almost high. The ideas just bubble out like a Volcano. I never run out of things to talk about.
Final Thoughts
You may think you’ll be happy when you get the girl(s) of your dreams. But what if, you’ll get the girl(s) when you’re happy?
I’m not suggesting you quit your quest to go meditate, lift weights and read books for a year.
The point is, if you find approaching women to be a miserable experience, your results will reflect that. Women can tell if you’re faking it.
You can do both. You can learn to approach women, and date, while also creating a lifestyle and philosophy that makes you a better, happier man. It’s all about balance.
If your life seems like a hopeless mess, and you don’t know where to start… here’s a tip.
Don’t worry. Just start.
And if you fuck up… start again. Pick up where you left off. There’s no going backwards.
You can always start again.
By the time you reach this place, you won’t even care about getting laid, or dating. It will come to you if you’re open to it.
That’s the point.
And here’s a video I made on the same subject.
Tony
