Never Ignore a Girl’s Green Lights

Most guys get this totally wrong with girls. 

Let me tell you a story. 

Restaurant Hottie

I used to work in the restaurant industry as a busboy. There was this adorable sexy 19 year old blondie I’ll call, “Pixie.”

Pixie pretty much ignored me. I still had approach anxiety back then. But one day I decided to put it on the line. As she walked by I said something drastic: “Move that little butt out of my way.” 

She turned and looked incredulously at me. “What did you say?” 

I spoke slowly, with intense eye contact and a cocky smile. “Get that little butt OUT OF MY WAY.” 

I could have been fired for sexual harassment. But instead, she smiled and wandered off. The rest of the day I noticed her staring at me. At the end of our shift, I sat beside her and started chatting. She cut me off and said, “I want to come over to your place.” 

Being young and inexperienced I thought, “Oh no, I better play hard to get. I don’t want to seem thirsty.” So I replied, “I’ll lock the window.” 

She frowned at me, and then walked away. 

That was the end of my shot with that girl. I still beat myself up over it. 

The lesson here is don’t ignore green lights. 

Always Take Green Lights

When a woman gives you a green light, you don’t practice a neg, a push pull, or do a cold read. You are a salesman and she’s saying, “Do you take credit cards or cash?” When she gives you a green light, you step on the gas and go.

This is because escalation is attractive.  

What I should have done was said, “What time does your shift end? At six? Okay I’ll meet you here at six.” Or at least given her my home address and told her to be there at 8. 

Daddy Issues

Here’s another story.

I was at a bar teaching a student how to approach. My friend who is also a dating coach was doing the same. 

He had his student approach this sexy young blonde. She was not having it. I listened to her lay into this student. “Why do you think you can talk to me? You better work on it.” He stammered out some reply, and since it wasn’t going well my friend stepped in to help. She laid into him as well, lecturing and scolding him. 

This poor guy already struggled with staying positive. The last thing he needed was this girl laying into him.

I’d had enough. I turned, looked at her and said: “Shut the fuck up with your daddy issues.” (Mic drop.)

The crowd gasped and turned their heads to hide their giggles. She went red. A few seconds later I felt a tap on my shoulder. It was her. I Expected a lecture from her. Instead she said: 

“So are you going to makeout with me… or not?” 

I grabbed her by the ass, lifted her onto the table and stuck my tongue in her mouth. We made out for a few minutes, and later I walked her home. 

Like I said, when a girl gives you a green light, you step on the gas, hard. If I’d made some cocky line, or tplayed hard to get, it would have been done. She’d have lost interest and I’d not have this glorious story. She was looking for someone with balls. 

Ukrainian Girl

I used to date this Ukrainian 18 year old. On one date she told me this tale. 

She’d met a guy who liked to work out. She had not hooked up with him yet. One day she was feeling randy so she texted him and invited him over for an 6 o’clock date at her place. He replied, “Sorry, that’s my workout time.” 

Now, I’m not saying a man should give up his work out time, or radically alter his life plan for any girl. However, it’s different when you’re already in a relationship vs a girl you’ve never slept with. 

Despite his thirsty texts trying to get her back into him, she never saw him again. Her explanation was: “If I invite a guy over and he doesn’t come, it means he doesn’t really like me. I only want a guy that really likes me.” 

She gave him a big green light, and he didn’t take it. 

The Christmas Hookup

In my Discord community a member had met a hottie on a dating app.

It was Christmas holidays and she was horny. She invited him to come meet up with her. He had left town and was about 45 minutes away from her. He said, “Let’s get together after the holidays.” She protested saying she was ready RIGHT NOW. But he figured she liked him enough to wait. 

I’m pretty positive that it never happened. I explained to this student that he ignored the big green light, and now was stuck at the intersection. 

I’ll repeat: When a girl gives you a big green light, you STEP ON THE GAS. 

It’s a buyers market out there 

Until you’ve slept with her, she holds all the cards.

She’s the buyer, you are the seller.

She’s like a millionaire in a car dealership. Sure, you may have a sports car, but she’s rich and can buy anything. She wants to buy RIGHT NOW but you are like, “Hey, I’m not sure if I want to sell you this car today. Come back tomorrow.” 

These young and sexy girls have unlimited options. 

All they have to do is turn on an app and they’re flooded with messages from thirsty Chads.

And because most women are not polyamorous, once they find a mate, they’re good. So you want to make damn sure that mate is you.

Because once she starts banging you, she’s likely to close her apps, and stop responding to the other guys. Her needs are met. 

The Moral

When a girl gives you a green light, step on the gas.

If you tell a girl you like her, and she gives you a green light… take it.