Creepy vs Douchey

I’ll admit…I’ve trained myself to be a douche. Before we continue, realize my definition of douche is a proud hero, not an abuser of emotions.

Prior to becoming a full fledged seduction nerd, I was a simple guy. A musician, artist, writer. People thought I was nice. It was nice. I was a shadow. Let’s all hold hands and sing.

Sometimes I would get a little too drunk; a little rowdy, whistle at girls, or make a flirty comment. But I was still nice. Quiet, smart, safe. All the things that make chicks clamp their thighs shut.

Then I discovered the pickup scene. I learned how to be entertaining, loud, boisterous, insightful, touchy, stylish, proud, present, guided, purposeful, abundant. And it worked! The more I acted like a douche, the better the girls responded.

But I was wearing blind folds. Like those ones on track horses, running forward, focused on a mysterious goal that might not even exist: Success with women. This is the path to enlightenment? Creeping out strangers?

As I met more and more guys in the scene, I noticed a pattern. They were really, really weird. I’m cool with weird. The weird guys weren’t so bad. But I started to meet another type: The successful Pua type.

The successful Pua is loud…far too loud.

He only talks to other successful Puas.

He’s above average in looks, or height.

If you talk to him, he doesn’t talk about anything other than Pua stuff.

If you walk with him, he’ll stop every third girl, even if she’s with her boyfriend, or on the phone. So you have to stand there and wait, alone.

He attacks people on forums; a troll with a badge of honor.

He is oblivious to the now, and the ego.

He is competitive.

He is creepy…but pleasant and charming at the same time….

Once you figure this success with women thing out…you’ll realize that most pua material is nonsense. Beyond a few alternate mindsets and psychological triggers, it’s about stepping up to plate and trying on a new personality.

I’ve got tactics and techniques. But that stuff bores me. Action is the key, not philosophy. If practicing bold, confident, cocky, aggressive, behavior helps you out–by all means try it out. It’s cool. With enough experience you’ll develop a healthy balance between natural and robotic game.

But have fun with this stuff. It’s ok to be a bit…douchey. And you’re going to come off as creepy sometimes. It’s ok. Eventually you just won’t care what anyone thinks of you. That’s the goal.