Build a Spider Web

Yesterday I was walking home at night drunk as a circus clown on welfare day and along the wall beside me were these light fixtures. Inside of one, I noticed a fat little spider. He’d built a nest inside the fixture, completely covering the entire entrance. Every low flying bug in the neighbourhood was attracted to the shiny light and couldn’t get at it without passing through the web. “Smart guy,” I thought.

Then I noticed the next light. It also contained a fat spider and a web loaded with food. The same with the next light. The spiders had discovered a smorgasbord. They understood that bugs loved bright lights. They adapted.

I once had a large apartment in Vancouver with enough space to entertain forty to fifty people. My roommates and I would host bi-weekly parties and we’d invite all of the attractive girls we knew. Young women love a good house party and the more parties we hosted, the more people would come, and the more popular the parties became, the more we got laid.

Through my cold approach adventures I was meeting a lot of pretty girls. Many of which were not quite willing to meet me for a date, but were very into attending my parties. Hosting parties also gave me another excuse to approach and number close more girls. It was a good situation overall.

It wasn’t enough to throw parties; they needed to be fun. I stocked my bedroom with many sugary, fattening, hangover inducing beverages that females enjoy. We would ask talented friends to DJ. We would decorate the rooms in different motifs. We would host themes like Beach Day and James Bond to increase the sexual vibe.

When the party was jumping I would make my rounds and introduce myself as the host. This put me in the position where men and women would kiss my ass and thank me for creating such epic soirees. For women, social status is the most powerful of aphrodisiacs; and being the man who hosts the party puts you at the top of the status food chain. When you are the master of your environment, the power of choice can be yours. King shit.

If I managed to coerce a group of girls into my room I would feed them a few shots, make witty flirtations and physically escalate. If a girl was feeling me, I would tell her to stick around after the party to hang out. After about five or six of these interactions I would usually have two or three girls that were dtf. Then I’d let them compete over who would get to spend the night. I’d pick the girl I liked best, and bring her to my room for a drink. Then I’d try to bang her. If she didn’t want to bang, I’d leave the room and try with the next girl. A man’s gotta do what a man’s gotta do.

Along with social status, logistics play a very important role in fast seduction. If the girl has already explored your place, your friends and your lifestyle, assuming you aren’t a slob with awkward friends, all that is left is to isolate her and escalate. Make sure you have water, music, towels, and a clean bedroom so she feels comfortable. A laptop so you can show her pictures and you tube videos while you cuddle up, and dim lights for the mood.

If during the party you were cool and fun and social, her friends should approve of you banging her–as that means more sweet party invites for them. If you like a certain girl, offer her friends a free drink. Bring out the bottle. It’s important to win over the friends so they know you aren’t a creepy rapist. Just be cool, make a few jokes and give value by being social. Introduce them to other groups. Introduce the men to your female friends, and vice-versa. Be a match maker.

Cold approaching is a great way to meet women and expand your social circle, but it’s like being a hawk. You need to have the accuracy of a sniper. You need to be in great mental, emotional, and physical shape. It’s much easier to build a web of joy and fun with shiny objects and let the girls come to you. Build a web.

My suggestion: Gather four or five of your friends that want to meet women, and rent a place. If you’re older and have more money, get four or five of your friends and invest $500 a month and start a party space or art gallery. You will develop a huge social circle and get more women than you know what to do with, assuming you have your fundamentals in place.

Good luck. Peace love and joy.