Abundance Mentality

Did she like my joke?

…don’t care.

She’s into him more than me.

…no worries.

Isn’t returning my text?

…meh.

Thinks I’m too old or too young…

…still don’t care.

Abundance.

Imagine…what if you had everything you needed. Not wanted, but needed: Enough money. Enough freedom. Enough love. Enough sex and food and friends.

That’s the guy.

That guy gets the girl. That’s the guy who has a new date every few days if he wants.  Once you flip that attraction magnet it’s really, really hard to turn off. It’s a ravenous, baby vortex, and it grows. Or, once you’re cool, you’re cool. (I like to get poetic.)

I can’t pinpoint the exact moment it happened for me; probably after about three years of terror, pain and glory. But the proof was there: every time I went to a party, I’d get, “yes please,” vibes from women. Every girl in my social circle wanted to date me. I became totally comfortable in my own skin and it showed. I mastered state and frame control. I stopped trying to impress people and allowed them to impress me. My vortex is strong and yours can be too.

If you want to be really, really, cool You’ll need to read every article I ever wrote, half of which are on internet forums like www.fastseduction.com. I’m like Ringo Star over there.

Until then, learn to master your states and frames.

State control is your core emotional stability.

Frame control is your outward appearance and action.

So having poor state control means being heavily involved with your inner dialogue. Since the mind and body are perpetually linked, your actions will reflect your thoughts. So in English that means:

Paranoid thoughts = paranoid actions = your terrified vibrations freaking people out. You can’t pick up girls until hanging out with them is no big deal. But it is! If they’re hot.

My very first bar approach ever, back in 2007, I walked up to a table of chicks, swung my arm and sent a gin and tonic onto a poor girl’s lap. She asks, “Are you nervous?”

“Nah! A little drunk!” I reply. (Like that’s any better.)

It’s was just my fear of the unknown–simple as that. A normal human reaction when faced with possible social doom. Once you’ve approached a thousand strangers you learn that bad things just don’t happen often…in fact wonderful things happen. Your state control improves. You aren’t afraid of bumping your head on low hanging fruit…now, you live in this orchard! You can point out every branch in the dark.

We’re  social creatures sharing a social planet. We’re designed to communicate. It’s the central theme of our species. If you can learn to communicate skillfully you could be rewarded with great wealth and power.

Wealth doesn’t need to mean money. I mean, you’re here because you want women I assume. You probably want some practical tips to get the girl. Start with this:

Be social: You’ll be spoiled with opportunity.  What does a spoiled kid act like? They don’t care what you think. What does the spoiled kid get? Anything they want. It’s like you play with the universe long enough it get’s tired and say’s, “Fine son, anything you want. Now go play and let Daddy rest.”

Abundance mentality is somewhat like acting spoiled. The problem is…you probably aren’t getting late night booty calls just yet–but if you attack a problem long enough eventually you solve it. When you solve enough problems you gain confidence.

Confidence only comes with experience. With Confidence, plus action, you get abundance.

Watching BattleStar Galactica on a Friday night is not action. Playing your Xbox or drinking beers with your buddies is not action. That’s action towards being fat, lazy, stupid and boring.

Here’s the key: You must attempt something useful, bold, creative, every day. If that means going to a club and approaching women until dawn, so be it. If that means cleaning your room, or writing a sweet guitar riff…do that. You can read about negs and apocalypse openers all night but that is still not action.

If you are having problems taking action, take a look at right now. You should be fine with Right Now. You’re good enough to do it.

Right Now

You don’t think too much or too deeply about things that don’t matter. Like what others think about learning how to attract women. Let them think. Let them think themselves to sleep. They’re probably sleeping all the time, with their eyes wide open.

Do, Experience, Learn and Enjoy. Abundance is on the way–if you get off your ass and practice.