Traveling is Good for Your Game

Since quitting my shitty day job and becoming a dating coach, I’ve achieved a long term lifestyle goal: Often and extended trips to far away lands.

When I was younger and before getting into self-improvement, I was afraid of travel, like a little baby girl. When I learned game, manned up and decide to explore the world people would tell me, “It’s dangerous, be careful.”

finally saved up $14,000 from a year of bootcamps and flew to Se Asia an a four month adventure. Yes, there were times I was scared, like driving at 120 kilometers (75 mph) in a tourist bus down a Cambodian freeway while the driver played The Fast and The Furious on the flatscreen TV and swerved to avoid potholes and ox carts. Or being caught in a Laotian river current and nearly drowning with my Ukrainian backpacker girlfriend. Or being lost in Phnom Penh and wondering if I would be robbed by the sketchy alley lurkers outside every hotel.

I loved it. Safety is boring. North America is obsessed with safety.

Before 2009 I had never been far outside of my home City. Since 2009 I’ve been to Toronto, Calgary, Montreal, Toronto, Los Angeles, Winnipeg, Phoenix, San Diego, Seattle, Thailand, Cambodia and Laos. The greatest value I’ve gained from traveling is perspective: seeing how other people live and how other cultures function. Also developing great social skills from meeting new people from all over the world. When you travel if you’re shy and anti-social, you will be very, very lonely.

In Thailand it’s accepted that men have mistresses outside their marriage. This is believed to keep the family unit intact (though it must be a secret to friends and family to avoid losing face).

In San Diego people are generally easy going and friendly, mostly due to near perfect weather all year round.

In Los Angeles every second pretty girl and handsome guy believe they are going to be actors. Good luck with that. Also, the Hollywood strip is a dump, and not the place to find hot girls.

In Phoenix Arizona, everyone has a car because the city is a giant desert sprawl. Unlike Vancouver which has a great public transit system or Montreal which has bicycle culture.

In Laos, women are forbidden by law to date foreigners. But exceptions are made if you plead with the local mayor.

Americans love fast food, and they are really fat. It’s not a lie.

German backpacker girls though pretty and tall are incredibly masculine and domineering (generalization yes, but true).

My daily spending budget of $40 a day in Se Asia is the daily wage of the average worker, if they’re lucky.

When I return home to Vancouver after extended trips, I feel a sense of safety and calm. This feeling lasts about a month, before turning into boredom. Once you start to travel, it’s hard to stop.

And for the guys, traveling will teach you more about game than a pua seminar. A new town means new people. If you want any fun at all, you will have to make some friends. That’s where pickup skills come in handy. If you’re not afraid to approach strangers and charm them, traveling can be really, really rewarding.

If you’re having a hard time with women, or feel like your life is in a slump, take a trip. Save some cash, pick a spot on the map and go. You won’t regret it.