How to Meet Girls in Hostels

So you want to know how to meet girls in hostels. I don’t blame you. Travelling can be lonely.

If you’re a single guy travelling on a budget, chances are you’re staying in hostels.

Hostels are mostly inexpensive dormitories where you can sleep on a luxurious bunk bed, surrounded by other budget travellers who are mostly under thirty years old.

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Many of the rooms are coed, and most hostels have bars nearby, or are bars themselves. So the combination of young people in close quarters adventuring far from home, drinking their weight nightly, leads to some raging hormones.

But how does a guy get some lovin in a hostel?

The first step of how to meet girls in hostels is to hang around the common area until you see some girls, then go say, “hello.”

Seems obvious, but I see many guys who come into the hostel and sit by themselves without making introductions.

It is very, very rarely that a female will approach a stranger—even in a hostel—unless she’s a prostitute. So walk up to the first attractive female you see, and say, “Hi.”

Don’t wait half the day to do this either. The earlier you get social the better.

You can follow this opening with brilliant conversation like, “where are you from? How long have you been travelling? Where have you been? Where are you going?” This should be enough to build some rapport.

Meeting girls in hostels is very easy

Meeting girls in the a hostel is super, duper easy. All those rules about not asking boring questions don’t apply in the hostel as this is standard conversation amongst backpackers.

Hostels aren’t like your local bar. Backpacker girls aren’t usually going to blow you off like you’re some creep.

Girls here know that everyone is there to meet other people, so often even the hottest girls are down to at least chat with you, find out where you’re from, and where you’re going.

It’s sort of like you’re part of a community of bunk bed friends. So any approach you do in a hostel is a warm, rather than a cold approach.

And you’re all in this together, in bunks beds, sharing farts, snores, and more.

And that’s the problem with getting laid…bunk beds.

If you can afford a private room in a party hostel, you have a huge advantage since you can host private parties in your room.

Women abroad don’t always want to bang in a ten bed dorm room. So you can always go to your private room to check out some travel vids on your laptop, listen to music, play cards, watch a movie, or whatever bullshit you need to say to get her back there.

If you have a wingman it’s even easier to get the girls in your room.

I’ve pulled many girls from hostels simply because I had a private room, and offered to let them sleep in it, with me. Just like this: “You can sleep in my room tonight if you want.”

Just put the offer out there and if she likes you, she may never leave.

Be the first guy she meets in the hostel

If you hang out in the lobby long enough eventually new girls will check in.

As a rule, the first people they meet will become their new best friends. That should be you. There is a great power in being, “first.”

Don’t believe me? Imagine you’re a 20 year old German girl on her first trip abroad. No women like being alone for long. Then you say “Hi, where are you from?” Baam, you’re her new bestie. Here’s some safety she thinks. I’m no longer alone. I have… a friend!

Whenever you meet a girl in a backpacker place and she says “My friends” she almost always means the people she met at the hostel yesterday. Be that guy. Introduce yourself to everyone you meet. Not only will you meet girls, but you’ll be popular in general.

Be her protector and tour guide

After you’ve made friends, ask her if she’s done any of the tourist things.

“Have you seen the museum? Waterfall? Night market?” Or ask her if she wants to get some street food, or a drink. Then get her out of the hostel.

Get her away from the hostel competition

There are loads of horny dudes milling around trying to pickup girls in these hostels. And many of them have really good game.

Luckily, they don’t always have the approach or daygame skills to meet girls like you do. Their strategy is usually to wait to be introduced, or wait until night to get smashed at the pub crawl and make random comments until women notice them, where the copious amounts of alcohol will bring out their courage and game.

But if you’ve been with the girls all day, you will have an advantage. You should do everything in your power to keep the girls away from the hostel parties, and instead out with you doing activities.

Solo girls are the safest bet

If you see a hot girl who is travelling alone, get on that! I’d say most of the women I hooked up with were travelling alone, and I was the first guy they met.

Groups work too, but you’re going against social pressure.

Many girls who travel in groups don’t want their friends to think they’re slutty. This is obviously bad for you. So you will have to meet and build rapport with the entire group, which isn’t a difficult feat in a hostel.

It’s sort of like the first day of high school. Everyone is a bit shy at first, but if you make yourself known as a cool, social guy, you’ll be invited into the group.

If there are guys in the group you will have to figure out who’s banging who, as it isn’t always apparent.

Hostel relationships are often temporary, and public displays of affection are frowned upon, so sometimes it’s hard to tell which girls are single.

Just make friends with one of the group and a little bit later ask, “Who’s hooking up with who?” You should get the info you need.

Where to bang in a hostel?

If you don’t have a private room, don’t worry. There are plenty of places to bang in a hostel. Scout for logistics. You always have the dorm if you don’t mind being that annoying couple that wakes everyone up at four am with quiet moans.

Yes, everyone can hear you. So if you don’t mind pissing off your roommates, go for it. If the top bunk is free you can use the sheet and hang it down to give you some privacy.

I personally look for other, more private places. I hate it when people wake me up with their passionate sex noises. It makes me really horny and envious.

Good hostels have large, clean bathrooms with private showers. There are also tv rooms, closets, stairwells, rooftops and other places. Explore.

You could make a game of it. Maybe you crawl into your bed and you’re getting excited. At this point, whisper, “come with me I want to show you something.” Then take her hand and lead her out of the room to your sex location.

If she doesn’t want to go, then maybe she doesn’t want to bang or seem like a slut. That’s up to you to use your seductive powers and make something happen. Don’t forget your condoms!

Parties, Drinking, Games.

For hostel parties and pub crawls, last man standing rules apply. These parties usually involve heavy drinking games like beer pong, cards, and so on.

Every backpack dude who was too afraid to approach during the day will be wasted and pulling out all their tricks trying to get laid at night. This is why it’s critical to have built rapport with the girls during the daytime.

These guys I call hostel pigs, because once they have six beers in them, they become super human pickup geniuses. They dance to their EDM, they get the party going, they win at beer pong, they kiss all the girls within seconds, and do all the things you wish you could do when you’re sober.

They will steal the girl you worked all day on. So unless you can compete with that level of party energy, don’t bother going.

Party Hostels vs Chill Hostels

I spent years practicing my party game, so I can do alright, though I’m a bit old for getting slammed every night just to get laid.

The party is a great place to meet girls. But you need to have some game. Bring the fun. Win the beer pong. Try some arm wrestling with weak backpackers. Play and dance to your electronic dance music, and shamelessly makeout with every girl at the party.

When you hook a girl you like, get her away from that party and into a seduction location. Just take her hand and walk her away before her friends notice and cockblock you.

I prefer chill hostels where there may be fewer women coming and going, there will also be less competition from high testosterone alpha backpack chads.

Hostel Pigs are greedy

Hostels are very competitive. There are many men who have read seduction blogs and have ridiculously good game. They are often tall, very good looking, and quite aggressive.

I call them Hostel pigs, because they are competing for the same resource and not interested in sharing.

My best advice for dealing with hostel pigs is again, to not deal with them. Look for solo travellers and take her away on a travel adventure outside of the hostel. Then you can charm her pants off.

And do not bring her back to the hostel if possible. Seduce her, and rent a private room somewhere else. If you do bring her back to the hostel before you’ve made sweet love, don’t say I didn’t warn you.

To recap: how to meet girls in hostels

• Be the social guy. Say hello to everyone
• Be the first guy she meets
• Be the leader. Take her away to do fun activities outside of the hostel.
• Take her to the seduction location, like a laundry room or shower, or rent a private room
• Avoid the parties unless you are very comfortable with parties, and losing your girl to other backpackers.
• Don’t bring her back to the hostel if she likes you. Bring your passport so you can rent a private room somewhere else.

And have abundance mentality.

If you spend much time in hostels, you can be sure that every day, new girls will arrive looking for fun, romance and adventure. Be the guy who provides that experience and you’re set.

Don’t get too bummed out if you don’t get the girl or lose her to a hostel pig. There will be more hostel girls tomorrow!