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I love teaching pickup bootcamps. I love travelling to different cities. I love meeting cool guys, hot girls and making a modest living helping people. I especially love writing and creating products.
But I don’t love everything. Web design, marketing, business management and client droughts. These things stress me out–but I’m a one man show and someone has to do it.
Here’s the truth. I’ve been blogging at absoluteability for three years. I’m bored to death of writing about pickup. I’ve said it all, haven’t I? There are so many damn game bloggers now, and sometimes I feel like I’m just one of them. Because really, there’s very little new to say about game other than words of encouragement. Inspirational pickup posts don’t tend to go viral because people don’t want to be associated with pua.
Most game bloggers are either rehashing old knowledge, or stirring up controversy by pointing out flaws in other gurus methods. In 2013, the only way to engage an audience is to part of the, “manosphere,” bitching about feminism, manboobs, white knights, and western culture. And I get it. I read a few of those blogs. They really get you fired up. But are any traditional pickup bloggers receiving this sort of attention? Not really. The market is flooded it seems. Or maybe I’m not as good a writer as I’ve been told.
So, I’m going to make in-field videos and become a YouTube sensation. I really don’t want to do it, follow girls with video cameras. But, fuck it. I need to make a living. I want to do this job and the blog just isn’t cutting it.
I sell bootcamps. Until I can make a living off my books, I’ll be in the bars and malls with my students, teaching them how to approach women.
I’m really, really bored of writing about women. And because hardly anybody wants to comment on a pickup blog, I have no idea what people like. If there was mass enthusiasm I might carry on. I don’t know what my readers want to read about. I don’t know if you’re advanced, intermediate or newbie.
So one thing you can do to help me, is comment on the blog. Email me questions or thanks. Re-tweet me. Share me on Facebook. Tell your friends. Invite me to talk in your city. Hire me! Mention me on Reddit. Buy my new book!
Without your feedback and support, my interest in writing about game will vanish. And if my interest wanes, the business will end, or transform into something much more vanilla, for the mainstream. No more dick jokes. No more bang stories. I’ll have to put on a tie and go on breakfast tv in order to sell my confidence coaching. And I will have to write lots more newbie posts like, “Don’t put women on a pedestal!” and “Take action to defeat approach anxiety.” Booooring. Right? Or not? Let me know.
I’m sure 95% of my readers are first time readers, and last time readers. I have about 1000 subscribers, and 250-500 visits per day from random search engine traffic. So I’m walking the line between creating an artistic blog, and an advert for selling bootcamps to the mainstream.
Let me know. What do you like about the blog? What do you dislike? What could I do to improve the content? What would keep you coming back? What would make you share my posts? Criticize me. Help me improve.
End of rant.
Keep it real. Bet out there. Meet girls. Step up your game of life.
I bought your book, and the one about style. I like your blog a lot because it’s very realistic, no BS and you give very practical tips.
Using some of the tips you’ve shared here I’ve got some nice dates with cool girls and had great experiences. I usually get a phone number out of 4-5 approaches, and I get a “gig” out of 4-5 phone numbers. And I always get real phone numbers.
What I don’t like it’s the attitude against the western girls. I am from Eastern Europe, and I think in the West girls are more respectful (they are on time for a date and don’t consider that they “have” to make the guy wait), less drama, less BS, less mind games, and more down to earth.
If a guy from USA or Canada goes to those “exotic” places it would be treated totally different by the eastern girls because he is perceived as having money, papers (the green card baby) and a higher status (coming from the first world), and therefore the girls will be on their best behaviour. You guys cannot see them how they really are, but we know them since they were in diapers haha. Western girls have hobbies are independent, and I find that very sexy.
Overall I think your blog it’s great. And I would like to read more about the insightful conversations one can start with a random girls.
Thanks a lot for a great blog, great advice and I would be really sad to know you’ll go out of business. Push it through hard times. It’s the only way to succeed. I think you are a very good writer.
Thanks for the support. It’s really interesting to hear from you European guys. I’d love to come out there and coach some day.
I totally agree with JJ about western and eastern girls. And yes, I’m coming from a central europe country. Here literally anyone who comes from “THE WEST” gets instant rockstar status for free. If he has any game – becomes a sex star.
I’m reading your blog because of honesty and realism you posess. There is nothing worst than a PUA coach who writes hate blogs and his youtube films are stretched with nerves. He in fact is more a destroyer than a helper. You are bringing pacefulness and realism with your blogs – and that is very important.
I think that the idea about Youtube films is great, but be careful. don’t just place there anything (bad content hurts) and remember that you can get sued if someone you filmed finds your content offensive (depending on the country and its law-system of course).
My current work is 100% around pictures/movies and I’m doing film-editing for some of my friends who are also placing training videos on Youtube, so if you need any help please email me – I’ll be happy to give you any advice.
best wishes
Artur
About this, sent you an e-mail last week (aug 21). Did you get it?
No. I’ll check my spam folder. Send it again.
Hi Tony,
I found your website by accident about 3 years ago on Craigslist. Was really bored that day and was checking out the singles ads, wondering what kind of girls actually would put out an add to meet a guy. Anyways, I read your site and was really fascinated by it. I have a gf, but still really enjoy reading all your articles. I actually look online at least once a week for the newest post and am always eager to read it. I’d say you are very entertaining and you have so much useful information.
I think that if you wanted to, you could branch out and be a motivator to anyone, I often think many people can use your tips besides guys to improve their lives (especially goal oriented inspirational stuff, and articles about being positive).
Your site is the only one of this type that I’ve heard of, I’m not a blogger or internet chatter type at all, so I rarely post anything. I hope you continue to write and do what you love, I’m sure you can be as successful as you want. In the meantime, I keep forwarding your best articles to my friends and they really like them too.
Ray
Montreal
Thanks Ray. I’m working on an inspirational post just for you. I’m wondering, do you read any other blogs?
And it’s interesting to see the guys point of view from Europe. I think sometimes it’s a case of the “Grass is greener on the other side”.
People often want something or someone more because they are from somewhere else and are new, interesting, and different.
I agree. I even got sucked into hating my countries women. I was reading too many redpill blogs, which are super entertaining. But I always wondered why they got so much attention in the blogosphere.
Of course men who have a hard time here would like to go overseas, where women will use their bodies to get over here.
Hey Tony. Longtime reader. Big fan of your blog. It’s personally helped me a lot over the years. I really enjoy your posts about putting it into practice and taking action. You have great metaphors and I really understand the ideas you’re trying to convey. However some of your more abstract posts about mental state can leave me feeling confused. Especially posts involving the ego. Just wanted to give you some feedback.
P.S. I really enjoy your writing
Thanks Jack. It’s good to hear from you. Thanks for the input.
Love your blog Tony. You always keep it real and full of value.
Keep it up!
And a long life to your pets and grandchildren Sir.
Hey Tony,
I’m a long time reader of your blog and follow you on our local lair forum.
I also read you pre-release book (which by the way is great work and will be buying it even tho i read it just to support you)
Since you asked, here’s my input.
You post a lot of articles about your theories which is good and can be helpful to noobs and entertaining to more intermediate advance ppl.
In almost every single article you mention how GOOD you are with women and teaching. I do not dispute or argue with this. But you need it to PROVE IT.
What I do recommend is you post more field reports lay reports. It’s one thing you say your good it’s another thing to prove it with reports. (of course everyone can lie but I work under the assumption that you are honest and I’m sure you are )
Taking videos is good and won’t hurt. But most videos are about opening and number/kiss closing. As you know in pick up this is the EASY part. The real hard part is geting the lay and that’s a little bit harder to record.
Here’s a blog that i follow that has some great reports in them I sugest you take a look at it and write your own type of FR.
http://www.krauserpua.com
hope this helps
-solid
To follow up a little about what I was saying.
You released a book about day game. I’ve been following your work for a while and even in your book you rarely mention ANYTHING about day game other than you practice it sometimes. Almost all your reports are about night game.
So when you released your how to book for day game.I was surprised because I have no clue what your style is and I’ve read almost all your blog, and forum posts.
Had you written a few FR or LR from day game I would have a better idea what your style is and what to expect from the how to book should I decide to buy it.
Hi Solid. Thanks for posting. If you go to Smashwords you can actually read the first twenty percent of the book before you buy it. I also did a two part post a few weeks ago called, “Daygame, a roughh guide.”
There’s a lay report in that book.
I used to write a lot of lay reports. There are a few on my blog. But I found they were a waste of a good story, and more for bragging than actually teaching. I also find them tacky and low class. Attention and validation seeking. And basically, make you look like a piece of shit to anyone who isn’t from the pua scene, which I do my best to completely not associate with. Though it’s hard because that’s where I came from.
However, I did write a novel that has about fifteen bang stories from back in 2007-08. The book is in publishing limbo at the moment. So we will see what happens if these agents ever get back to me. Otherwise I will self publish on Amazon.
Ewww krauser. His stories just make me feel icky. Never liked that blog. Like a big brag report. I don’t want my blog to be anything like that. I find his work pretentious, poorly written (no poetry), and overly macho. And lay reports are the furthest thing from proof. Even if you post non-consentual pics of your ex fuck buddies. Such low character imo.
Lay reports are porn. That’s it. They’re really not that educational. I like to use anecdotes from time to time. The thing is, I’m friends with almost every girl I’ve slept with in the last three years. All of them have read my blog. I don’t do many one night stands. Whenever I write about getting laid I get in trouble with a current gf. I guess I could make a secret blog, but most of my gf’s have read my novel, and they want to be in the next one. They don’t want to be blog porn. I tend to date girls for a few weeks, months, or longer. So if I go posting “lay reports (shudder)” then I’ll be getting an earful. I actually contacted many of the girls for my book to let them know they would be in it, with names changed of course.
I wrote a ton of lay reports back on the old masf fastseduction forums. People would cheer and clap. I’m keeping my sex stories for my novels from now on.
Thanks for the feedback. I’m sure there are more guys who think like you do. If I wrote all my lay reports, or even more, I’m sure the fans would love it. But it’s just not worth it for me.
Originally I was suicidal, I was a really huge loser. Found your blog after going on reddit and Ive been reading ever since. You have depth but you also understand the Canadian culture. Which I have always seen as a huge bridge gap. Taking it one step at a time now, thank you
Hey. I was considering suicide once. Learning game changed that. Good luck.
Hi, tony.
Most of the guy’s already said what I wanted.
I find your blog, style of writing very genuine and down to earth, no BS. Seeing you talk in the live Vokle further gave me that impression. I truely do enjoy reading it from time to time. I have a few other ‘manosphere’ sites/blogs bookmarked but I find myself visiting this (and blackdragon’s – which I found thru your link. markmanson is good too) much more. There’s somethng about your writing that really moves me as a reader, perhaps because I used to also be a depressed downer too.
My favorite type of articles are more of personal development, positive attitude, and perhaps the biggest is the ‘me back then and me now’ type ones. Its empowering stuff. And of course the ones geared towards newbies.
You cover an array of topics too, from self improvement, psychology to humourous reports.
I’m sorry to hear your blog posts aren’t generating business as of late. (I bought your book tho! Personally all the info Ive recieved from this blog easily justifies $10)
As for criticize and input…gee I don’t know. I just wanted to say I enjoy your blog and thanks for all the posts.
I always appreciated your honesty. You and guys like Roosh don’t come across as gimmicky
Hey Tony!
I found your blog back in June when googling “how to text a girl”. I was caught up on a girl and doing most things wrong lol.
From the get go I loved your writing style and how raw it is. Seriously, your blog has been like cocaine – I read every article in a 2-3 day span, was hooked. It has been truly eye opening and inspired me to make some real changes in my life not just to get girls, but life in general.
Continue doing YOU man!
p.s. I plan on buying your book soon too!
I like the motivational stuff you post very very much. Its plain and it’s the truth. Most of the times men need a kick in the butt, not a friendly reminder. I never thought about the fact though, that posts on a pua-blog wont get viral – but it’s obious after you pointed it out.
So if you’re reshaping your blog and brand anyway, why not doing a blog on self-motivation and methods of self-fulfillment that features pua-stuff from time to time (instead of the other way around?). Because like you write all the time, it all comes down to your attitide towards life. You have to seize your own luck (and for that to realize, to be kicked in the butt over and over again); and be positive if it’s not gonna work out the first time.
Like, the blog for the man of the 21st century. About approaching women AND asking your boss for a raise, about going on a date AND on a job interview, about making a fitness plan AND a plan for your own company, about how to do networking at work AND having a social circle. About style, healty food, sports, about what cool books to read, how to speak/dress on which occcasions.
There is so much modern men don’t know that was simple and common knowledge for our fathers and grandfathers. How to be a MAN today on your own and stop imitating false role models.
dream job, friends, health – you have to seize it (and for that to realize, to be kicked in the butt over and over again); and be positive if it’s not gonna work out the first time.
I get how pulling audience is difficult. But i can pretty confidently say that if you alter your writing. It wouldn’t be intriguing and you’d lose at least me as a reader.
Anyway i love your writing and thats why i visit this blog. oh and btw; if you want to get more comments delete the motherf*cking requirement for name and email!! (Just made me lose my previous, much better formulated, post).
Thanks Rov. I need the comment filtering now to curb spam. How did it mess your post up? The way it works now is that I approve the first comment, and all the rest are automatically approved.
I wrote a comment, posted it, had to go back because of fields left empty, comment gone. (ctrl+z didn’t work either).
Hi Tony! I like the articles you posts here, and the advices as well. They are straight to the point, no BS and very practical. To sum it up, you make sense! I’ve read guru advise before from David Angelo. Not to kiss ass, but I find yours more interesting and understand your advise well enough.
Anyway, my concern in general is when taking advise from this kind of sites is that, maybe it’s not applicable to asian women? That it only works with caucasians/western cultures. You see I’m a single guy working in Kuala Lumpur and in hopes of finding “the one”. I’ve met a lot of asian women here already from different countries but not caucasians. Since im a typical asian guy, it’s quite challenging in meeting caucasian women. Fearing instant rejection since you dont really see them hanging with asian guys, unless it’s the other way around. Am I making sense to you? You see, I ended up in your site after I googled “What to do when she doesnt text back” I was laughing when I read about what you said bout this, and being needy. Yeah, I guess I am. Hahaha!
By the way, I tried searching for your book online, only found the e-book version, and it doesnt have option to buy it 🙁 I wanna buy…I really like to read and learn more from you. Thanks Tony!
I guess Kuala Lumpur does not have an Amazon store. It’s ok. Send me an email from my contact with “Ebook.” as the title.
When I was in Thailand I did see some Thai guys with white girls. One was a tattoo artist and the other…was a tattoo artist. Haha. You need to be confident. Most game is confidence. It’s hard for me to give advice because I don’t know your life. I teach in the west. But I can tell, you…women love confidence. If you expect “Instant rejection” then you are already defeating yourself in your head.