The Frightening Inevitability of Diminished Sexuality (Or Eunuch Game)

There are men with high sex drives, and men with low sex drives. Stating the obvious.

The men’s community tends to look down on those who don’t pursue women for sport as beta, or mangina, or closet gay, or quitters. The truth is, seduction as self-improvement is an incredibly niche interest. So it’s to be expected that the majority of participants fall into the high sex-drive category.

When you get older, and that drive decreases, maybe at 30, maybe at 40 or 60, maybe never for the lucky bastards, or the smart health nut—you will still love sex, and fantasize about romance. But you will need it less. You won’t be as motivated to pursue it. This is inevitable for most.

You won’t be waking up with a boner every morning. You won’t feel that ever driving need to approach and meet new women. You will still desire romance, adventure, sex and connection. You just won’t feel the biological urge to pursue it with the passion of a twenty year old.

Frightening!

If your entire purpose has been to satiate your desire for sexual variety, new romance, flirtation and conquest, and that desire diminishes—then what?

This isn’t meant to shame your desires. Stay with me.

When your entire life, you’ve used that sex energy to propel yourself; in sports, business, social life, education, art. You did it all for resources, respect, freedom and power—probably, consciously or not, so that you could attract hotties.

And then that energy diminishes. Chasing girls for some strange reason, loses it’s appeal.

This is when most people decide to find a girlfriend, or retire to a life of fishing and bingo. But what if you haven’t found a partner yet? What if you don’t enjoy fishing? What if you are single, and can’t find the motivation, due to lack of sexual energy, to go approach women?

This happens to every man at some point—and it’s usually a source of worry, embarrassment and shame.

You know you should, “Just do it.” But your body, your libido, just doesn’t care. It’s depressing as hell.

There’s a booming industry for men who worry about their testosterone level, erection issues, and libido. Strategies, pills, hormones, exercise regimens, diets, powders, routines, self-help books, and on and on.

This is good. It’s good to be healthy in mind and body. It’s good that there are options to help men.

But…

There are also other drives a man should focus on.

There is your passion drive.

Your adventure drive.

Your knowledge drive.

Your purpose drive.

There are options you can focus on, other than just trying to get laid. I love getting laid too. I love meeting women. I love having a girlfriend, and even though I teach dating and seduction for a living, I have a backup plan, and interests that aren’t solely about putting my wiener in warm holes.

The warm hole should be the reward, not the purpose. Pickup is a skillset, not a lifestyle. And you should definitely know how, and be talented at seduction. Not knowing how to attract the opposite sex is pathetic.

Knowing how to seduce a woman when you want, or need to, is personal power.

But that doesn’t mean you have to.

And what about women?

When women hit their thirties and forties, their sexual power diminishes.

I don’t buy that women hit their sexual prime in their thirties. I believe that women are offered less sex in their thirties, so they tell themselves, and every one around them that they are in their prime. “Please bang me. I’m in my prime.”

After a lifetime of selfie validation, endless partying, free trips around the world, and an limitless supply of male attention…the party comes to a screeching halt, and they think, “Shit. Now what? Where did my identity go? I was the hot girl. Now, I’m just a regular woman.”

Now what? Become an angry cat lady?

Smart women develop themselves beyond their sexuality, while at the same time embracing their nature, and sexuality.

Men lose their drive, women lose their desirability. We all diminish

If you base your entire identity on your sexuality, when that diminishes, you’ll be left without one. Your self-esteem will suffer.

The Answer to Diminished Sexuality

Develop other interests. Write, act, make films, start a business, promote parties, join a political movement, take dance lessons, join a men or women’s group (except feminism), paint, do standup comedy, start a family, organize a high school reunion. Do something you can be proud of.

Celebrate Your Sexuality, But Don’t Depend on it For Self-Worth

If you’re a beautiful girl, and proud of your form, flaunt it! Share it on Instagram, model for your friends, display your charms, gold dig if you want. You have the right to express yourself, or benefit from your genetic gifts.

If you’re a virile guy then go ahead and womanize, travel, party, work out. Do what makes you happy.

Enjoy your sexuality, be proud of it, identify with it (don’t fuck up people’s lives, of course).

But when the inevitable wall comes, if you don’t have anything else to base your identity on other than your sexuality, you’re going to be lost in a void of despair. You’re going to fight against nature.

Plastic surgery, hormone replacement; these are temporary solutions for existential crisis; like makeup on a cat (whatever)

Develop other reasons for existing or be faced with the ultimate question: What’s the point?

Just imagine you woke up one day, with no dick, like a Game of Thrones eunuch. The horror! What would you do…kill yourself?

This is a blog about male sexuality. It’s a pickup blog, and I teach guys how to attract women. Sometimes I teach women how to attract men. I’m all for identifying with sexuality.

But you need a backup plan.

Don’t be afraid. Just be prepared.

Train your mind and body for a future beyond sexuality as your sole purpose and identity.

Now go outside and be a dog. It’s Summer.

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