How to Never Creep Out Girls Again
Most guys worry about being seen as “creepy” by the girls they want to approach. There’s a lot of anti-male propaganda out there, and it’s not all unfounded. Many men are just raging balls of testosterone with very little social intelligence or game.
Unfortunately, If you want to pick up women, you must risk being creepy. There’s no way around it. You approach women and you may creep a few out.
Luckily you dear reader, have resources like me, Tony Depp, to show you how to approach women in a cool, fun, intelligent, and charming way.
What is Creepy About Approaching Girls?
I’ve creeped out lots of girls.
I didn’t mean to do it; but when you hit on ten women a day it’s hard not to.
Usually, it’s a simple misunderstanding and nothing to stress about. However, there are worst-case scenarios. Like this one:
I was in line for a drink at my local pickup bar. The girl in front of me was a cute little blonde. I started rizzing her up, and she seemed into it. And when I shook her hand I noticed she had wonderfully soft skin. “Wow, your hands are really soft,” I said, “what sort of lotion do you use?”
She looked at me cock eyed. “What?” She replied, confused. “Why would you say that?” She pulled her hand away, and then left the lineup.
So I got my drink and saw that same girl from across the room. She was talking to a tall young man and a group of his friends. She looked upset and pointed at me. Damn, I thought. She’s a moron, and so is he.
The guy puffed himself up and approached me. “What the fuck did U say to my girl!?”
“What?”
“You said something about her hands being soft.”
“Uh, yeah, we shook hands. I said her hands were soft.”
He looked at me without blinking. “Well, keep your creepy shit to yourself, yo!” Then he turned and walked back to his friends.
I had to sneak out of the bar or I would have had my ass beat.
That’s about the worst that’s ever happened to me.
What Does Creeping a Girl Out Look Like?
There’s no one definition of “creepy.” But if we examine what a creepy guy might look, or feel like to a woman, it would be this.
Creepy is:
- Being sneaky, in the shadows, stealthy
- Being ashamed of your desires and trying to hide them
- Being overtly sexual in an objectifying or dehumanizing way
- Begging or bargaining for attention or sex
- Being clingly or needy
- Unwanted touching (there’s a cool way to do this)
- Miscalibarted comments (see my hand lotion example)
- Social media stalking
- Not saying hello (just staring)
- Dishonesty about intentions
- Villainous Intent
- Premeditation, or planning
- Hunched over demeanor, with hands in pockets avoiding eye contact
- Entitlement without work ethic
- Taking without consent
- A persistent negative mindset or emotional state
- Low self-esteem, vengeance, entitlement, sloth, snide, cynicism, anger
- Low vibrations in general
Look at the above list and picture what that guy would look like.
We would have Gollum: the archetypal creep.
Gollum is a dishonest, fearful, brooding, plotting, cynical creature, always sneaking in the shadows and complaining about how the world is against him.
Always ask yourself “Am I being a Gollum?”
What’s the opposite of Gollum? Aaragorn, or Legolas. Sure, Strider remains hidden from view at times, but he hides to maintain peace throughout his realm. Not because he desires ultimate power, or to fuel his hidden addictions.
Strategies to Avoid Being Perceived as a Creepy Guy
Most guys want to be like Batman. They want to sweep in from the shadows and take the girl away to their caves before anyone even notices. However, Batman is a creep! He lives in a fucking cave! He likes bats and dresses all in black.
Let’s be more like Bruce Wayne, the eccentric Billionaire. Or even better, Superman. Superman doesn’t hide from anything. He dresses in bright blue, yellow and red tights. When Superman arrives at the club, everyone knows. He’s the polar opposite of creepy.
How To Avoid Coming Across as Creepy?
It’s not difficult to come across as not creepy with girls:
- Don’t think guilty thoughts. Stop projecting
- Clear your mind and be present
- Go direct until you’re comfortable stating your desire
- Employ open and inviting body language. Stand up straight and hold eye contact. Smile
- Be totally cool with rejection. If she says “Please go away” You politely reply “No problem, you have a great day”
- Stay away from negative news—nothing red pill, political, etc. Nothing about women being whores, sluts, etc
- Love people
- Be honest and transparent even if you’re nervous
- Apologize if you weird her out. Even though it’s not your fault just acknowledge that it happened
- Whatever you think she thinks. Whatever you feel, she feels
- Dress well and be well-groomed
It’s not that difficult to come across as normal and not at all creepy. Just be authentic, brave, stand up straight and be well groomed.
Anti-Creep Mindset
Because of the law of state transference, whatever you think and feel she will think and feel.
Therefore, to succeed with women you need to think and act in a cool, confident, non-creepy way.
Fixing Your Weirdo Mindset and Thinking Like This:
- Approaching a girl is completely normal and admirable
- Approaching a woman is not illegal or immoral
- Women love being approached by guys like you
- Women like being approached by men if done well
- If a girl gets creeped out it’s not your fault. You’re just doing your best to find a girlfriend (or 3)
- Women want us to learn and do better
- Her thoughts and feelings are not your responsibility
- You have to risk being creepy to learn success with women
That’s basically it. Tell yourself that approaching girls is totally normal and the best way to find a girlfriend. It’s the oldest game known to man.
Don’t even let negative thoughts exist in your mind. As soon as you catch them, banish them. Always be positive!
Conclusion
I’ve worked with hundreds of clients in my daygame bootcamps and coaching calls. 100% stressed about coming across as weird or creepy with girls the approached.
To avoid coming across as creepy, follow these two golden rules:
- Don’t look creepy
- Don’t think creepy
So stand up straight, smile, dress well and approach the girls you find sexy. There’s nothing shameful or weird about that.
Work daily on your approaches, meditate, and try to stop caring what other people think. Drop the nice guy act, and man up.
However, I advise you not to ask her what hand lotion she uses.
P.S. I have free courses on how to talk to girls in my free community.
