How To Pickup Girls At The Mall

I’ve taught a lot of men how to pickup girls at the mall.

A few months ago there was a national news story about a group of poooahs running amuk in Toronto Eaton Centre, approaching and creeping out women with misplaced compliments and pickup techniques. When I was teaching a workshop last year in the same mall, I saw these guys. There was a short asian kid in a suit and tie, holding what looked like a seminar for five guys. I knew instantly that they were newbies on a bootcamp. Anyway, one of them must have creeped out a girl, because someone tipped off security and it became a national news story. The horror! Men going up to women and saying, “Hi. I just thought you were cute and wanted to meet you.” What a tragedy for our women.

I’m a big fan of malls, and picking up girls at the mall. As a coach, they’re one of the easiest places to meet single women of all ages. Women love to shop, we love friendly women, so it’s a fit.

The Approach

You can go either direct, or indirect.

Direct Opener: “Hi, you’re cute. Had to meet you I’m Tony.” Cute could be replaced with any adjective like: hot, pretty, gorgeous, adorable. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you get to the point. You like the way she looks and you want to get to know her.

Indirect Opener: “Excuse me, do you know where Starbucks is?” An indirect opener doesn’t cut to the chase. This is especially good to use if you want to check out her dental hygiene. The other day on the street I approached an asian girl. I said something indirectly, I think it was a simple, “Hi. How are you?” When she replied her teeth were stained brown from some unknown substance. So I’m glad I didn’t go direct.

If you want a full list of opening techniques, or daygame techniques in general, check out my daygame book I Hope It’s Sunny Out. No Kindle? There’s an app for that.

So pick your opener, find the girl, and approach her. Try to stay in the interaction for at least two minutes. Don’t worry about what to say, worry about staying in the interaction for at least two minutes. Verbal game takes time to develop.

And then close. “Hey, let’s hang out later. what’s your number?”

The best opportunities are single women, shopping by themselves. But don’t be afraid to approach women in groups. “Hi, you girls are all cute, but I had to meet this one. I’m Tony.”

Hired Guns

I try to avoid hitting on girls who are working. In my city there are just so many options on the street that I don’t need to bother girls at work. But if you must hit on the hired guns, here’s a tip: Do not sit on the indirect subject. Like, don’t keep talking about the bath towels, or soap, or food. Either go direct and tell her you think she’s cute, or elicit her values by asking questions, and then building or breaking rapport with the information. Don’t just keep talking about how you need to buy a present for your little cousin and then walking away when you run out of bullshit. Let her know you think she’s hot. What’s she gonna do? Kick you out? She’ll say thanks but I have a boyfriend, or she’ll just say thank you. And then you can try to number close.

The Foodcourt

My favourite foodcourt opener is, “How is that food from 1 to 10?” When she’s like, “Blah, blah it’s a 7,” you sit down at her table. Don’t worry about annoying her. If she’s weirded out she’ll just ask you to leave, or walk away, or make fun of you or something. But most of the time if you have decent approach game, she’ll be totally fine with it. It’s a mall, not a night club. Women are much more approachable in the daytime.

Concerns

Creeping girls out: Don’t feel guilty about being social, but don’t draw uneeded attention, like the Eaton Centre fools. If you’re a newbie and you think you’re failed attempt at seduction might draw you unwanted attention from mall security, leave! Don’t hang around the mall with six wingmen, all doing only direct game. Don’t be a damn idiot. If you go to the mall with a wingman, make sure you take turns, and don’t burn the place down too quickly

Good Luck

That’s enough to get you started with Daygame at the Mall. Have fun. The rest is called “Game,” and you’ll have to develop that. Start by reading the newbie posts on the right side of my blog.

Peace.