Online Dating Sucks For Men (In the West)
A randy blogger for Medium published a Tinder experiment employing two fake profiles: one of an attractive man, and one of an average man. He played with the age from between 26 to 34, and started swiping.
The results are not surprising.
The attractive man whether he was 26, or 34, matched with 20%-40% of his right swipes, where the average man matched a measly 0.5 percent of his swipes.
The age of the matches were not surprising either. For attractive man, he was matched across all age groups, while average man only matched with women around 35 or older.
So this is it. You can throw out all of your online dating ebooks. If you want to succeed in meeting hot ladies off Tinder…be hot. Because if you’re not, you’re going to be stuck with 40 year old single moms.
Online dating eliminates the best option for men: The power of choice.
It leaves all of the choice to women. They choose who to “like” and who to respond to. So why would they choose to engage with someone with perceived low sexual market value?
This is why I like meeting women in bars, cafe’s, malls, yoga class. I can utilize something that is more powerful than my jaw or hairline: Game.
In real life, you can use your eye contact, your confidence, your charm, your body language and vocal tonality. You can stare into her eyes while she says “Do you do this all the time?” and reply, “Only on Sundays.” You can shake her hand and hold it just a little bit longer than what is “friendly.” You can display attractive attributes that you just can’t display online.
There are two main reasons online dating is so popular:
- Most men are too scared to approach women. They don’t know what to say. They don’t want to be seen as creepy or intrusive.
- Women like having access to a smorgasbord of choice.
Game was created so that the average guy had a chance to stand out from the beautiful men of the world.
Push pull, teasing, role-playing, state-transference, cold reads. There are so many tactics men can employ to get a woman laughing, or spike her attraction IRL, that you just can’t convey online…simply because the hottest women won’t even reply.
When I was in Asia I tried online dating and to my surprise, I had the smorgasbord of choice. This is because I have a few things they wanted:
- Money (More money, more fun)
- A Visa (Chance for travel and adventure)
- Status (Foreign boyfriends are status symbols)
- Exotic (I’m caucasian)
My inbox was flooded in Vietnam and I could have three dates a day, with very attractive women. But in Vancouver I can upload my best pics and swipe for days on end and only the lowest quality of women, with the odd attractive one (I’m not that ugly) will match. But then, only the lowest quality of the matches will reply. This is pretty much the state of online dating for average looking men in the West.
So rather than cry about it, I suggest you take massive action. Learn cold approach seduction. Learn how to approach women in the daytime, on the street, in the bar, in the restaurant, and make the best first impression you can.
Rather than being swipe/match number 243, you will be the only one who approached her all week.
Save yourself from the plague that is conditioning women to appreciate a man’s jaw, height and hairline over their charm, charisma, and confidence. Learn real game.
