Why Not Just Act Naturally?
After ten weeks of travel from Canada to Mexico, I’m back and now accepting applications for students in Vancouver.
If you want to learn how to approach women, increase your charm and confidence, and find more success with women—contact me now for a free Skype consultation.
“How was your trip Tony?”
It was awesome. Thank you.
I went caving in cenotes, visited ancient Mayan ruins, partied on beaches with international beauties. swam with whale sharks, ate three hundred tacos, and made loads of new friends.
A girl I met on Isla Mujeres, a beach resort near Cancun, asked me why men needed to learn how to approach women. Why couldn’t they just do it…”naturally?”
“Well, do you think that women regularly approach men?” I asked.
“Some do.”
“No. The average guy is pretty much never approached. Not by attractive women. How many men have you initially approached, that you can remember. Probably not many. Am I right?”
“Well. I guess not. No. Most talk to me first.”
“Have you ever used Tinder? How hard is it to find matches there?”
She laughed. “Oh, pretty much every swipe is a match. It’s just match, match, match.”
“Well, the average guy has to swipe two to five hundred swipes to get a date with a semi attractive girl. There’s a YouTube video of a slab of meat that swipes for them.”
“Oh my god, that’s hilarious.”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=snDeLy8cu24
“Basically, I teach Tinder in real life. But instead of swiping, we actually approach, and talk to the women. If she’s nice, and single, it’s a match. If she’s rude, or doesn’t want to talk, we move on.”
She crossed her arms and squinted her eyes. “So you’re just playing the numbers.”
“Yes.” I said. “Because we have to. What choice do we have? Women aren’t approaching us, unless we’re really popular or extremely good looking. We have to meet women somehow. We’re not all in school, or have jobs with huge social circles.”
“But why not let it just happen naturally?”
I let out a sigh. “Look. There is no such thing as “naturally.” Every man learned about women from someone, or somewhere. If not from their own trial and error, then from their brother, their father, their friends or the Internet. Like, what’s a skill that you have that others don’t?”
“I like to dance.”
“How did you learn to dance.”
“From…practice.” She smiled, showing a hint of recognition.
“Yes. Practice.”
She sort of scowled at me. “But that’s…kind of…”
“Not nice?” I said.
She didn’t say anything.
“Dating advice for men doesn’t exist to make women happy. It’s to help me get with girls. It’s to help us be more assertive, and attractive. We don’t care if the advice we read, or act on, makes you happy. You are not my clients. Men are. So I don’t care if women don’t like this advice, and men don’t care if you don’t like us learning how to approach you. We value strength, not weakness.”
I don’t think she really got it. But that’s why I rarely discuss my job with anyone except guys in fight club.
Here’s the deal. I can get away with talking to women about my job. But you should not be telling women that you had to approach hundreds, or thousands of women to develop your social and seduction skills. They don’t get it. They’re not men and they have no idea how much anxiety approaching a stranger can cause. They have no idea how difficult it can be to attract women, get dates, and get laid or find a gf.
Life is really short. Every year that goes by, I feel that little flame of inevitability. So if there’s something you really, really want to do, or accomplish—do it now. And you don’t need to explain yourself, your beliefs or your actions. You just need to do what will bring you contentment and joy.
Life is really short , Tony ? Try living 61 years ( like me ) , life not short. It’s a long life bro . Mind you , l do hear that a lot. Many ppl say life is short. Those r the young ppl. When u get middle aged , u realize just how long it is.
If u fuck up ur life , invariably u get a second chance. Probably a 3 d kick at the can.
I’ve fucked up my life many times , l keep getting second chances. The key is to stay alive. If u die young ( below 40 ) , life is short. After 45 ish , life gets long. Almost to long. Some days it is to damn long !! At the turn of the century , the average life span was shorter. In Russia the average life span , in 2016 is about 44. They do have a short life. In Mexico l think they live ( men ) , late 30′ s or so. Women live longer. Just the other week two Japanese young men , 24 & 25 drowned in a local ( BC ) , lake. R.I.P. bros.
Perhaps u could emphasize to ur clients life could be snatched from u at any time. Also , two guys got shot in Surrey the other day , both 20’s , one died.
That’s a good point. I had a good friend die last year in a car accident in Mexico city. He was only 28. (Fix your spelling. No “Ur” or “r” please.
Some questions I am interested in your response to:
Do you judge your dates based on what they do for work?
Has there been a girl with a profession you disagree with morally but you still pursued her and why?
Why do you find Tinder works better than other dating sites?
Sum up your job description in five words.
Why do you feel that life is short?
What is your views on marriage and people who are married?
Do you have female friends that you have never had sex with and do not want to have sex with. If not, why? (family excluded)
It’s just how they make money. I don’t care what a girl does for money. Most men don’t. All they want is a nice girl who doesn’t nag, isn’t jealous or crazy. I wouldn’t date a gender studies professor though, as they are dating coaches sworn enemies. I won’t date hardcore feminists either, as they tend to be mentally unstable and brainwashed communist misandrists. It’s easy to screen them out. They can’t help talking about their politics because they spend so many hours reading outrage porn on Jezebel. They are looking for bad men with the passion of the thought police during hate week. Basically it’s kind of like a cult, modern feminism. So I won’t date women who are too deeply ingrained in the cult. I guess it’s more the ideology than their job persay. So I totally understand why a feminist wouldn’t want to date me either.
Tinder is better for women here because they have higher sexual market value. It’s a good choice for women. Not so much for men as it wastes too much time that would be better spent creating something. I prefer irl interactions. My preference.
I can’t sum my job up in five words. I guess I’m a life coach, but a very niche life coach. I specialize in teaching men how to get more dates with hotter, more confident, and more feminine women. I teach them how to be more socially confident. I’m a blogger, and an author, and a public speaker. I teach relationship management, sociology, entrepreneurship, travel tips, and pickup.
Many wise writers have told me life is short. Seneca the wiser, scholar to emperors for one. I believe him. If you’re ambitious and driven then you should use your time here very wisely. You might get 50 -90 years tops. Then it’s game over. You might have an accident. You might get sick. If you’re a girl in the dating market, you have a lot less time than men to find a life mate. So it’s good to have a purpose that fulfills you, other than chasing down bad guys on the Internet.
Marriage is fine if you feel it would benefit you. I don’t see any benefit other than making a girl feel secure that I love her, or won’t leave her. For Visa purposes it could be useful. Like, to get a girl from say Russia to Canada or something. Or for a man to get a visa in Europe. But it would have to be a strong prenup so that there is no splitting of the man’s assets in case of divorce. Our society has a 50% divorce rate. It’s a flip of the coin really, and not such a wise decision.
Yes, I have female friends I’ve never slept with. Mostly acquaintances. My closest female friends are girls I used to date. But once they get boyfriends I rarely hear from them. So I prefer my male friends for close friendship and support. My best female friends are women I used to sleep with, now that I think about it.
What do you think is the difference between female and male politics for the average woman and man?
Who is your most influential male and female mentor?
What do you think is your greatest accomplishment that is not pick up or work related?
Why do you think you don’t have close friendships with women other than those you have slept with?
Do you feel mainstream media will ever accept you ideas or work and why or why not?
Have you ever given advice you later regretted?
Women care primarily about feelings, and believe that they should be the utmost concern for everyone. Men are more concerned about logic and rationality. Generally. Things are different in our culture because of the liberal political climate. But watching comment threads in the culture war, this seems to be the case.
I have too many mentors to list. I wrote an article about women that I admire. https://www.absoluteability.com/great-men/admirable-women/
All of my greatest accomplishments are work related. I wrote a few books. I wrote a few albums with my band. Mostly, I think it’s helping a few guys lose their virginity, a few to find their wives, and a whole bunch to get laid a lot more with better women than they believed they could attract.
Because I am very independent, and have few very close friends. With every female close friend I’ve ever had, there has always been some sort of unresolved sexual tension that either leads sex or rejection, by me or the girl. It’s usually the case with most men. Also, women don’t really hang out with other guys who aren’t friendzoned types once they have a boyfriend. And if a man is “best friends” with a single girl, this usually doesn’t continue once he has a girlfriend.
No, because the mainstream media is primarily liberal, and more concerned with virtue signalling to other liberals that they are not sexist, misogynist, racist, homophobic racists than telling the truth.
No.
Thank you for patiently answering my questions! I have just a couple more for you and I answered these myself as well so you could get some insight into me after I received so much insight into you. I would love to read your opinions!
1) If you could change one law in Canada to what ever you want, which law and explain how you would change it?
I would change the labor law so that companies that paid all of their lowest paid employee a minimum of $18/hr got a significant company tax break.
2) What is a quote from your high school grad picture yearbook?
“Don’t hate me because I’m superior.”
3) If you only had one book, one movie, one woman/man and one drug on a desert island and nothing else what would they be and why?
My book – House of Leaves because it can be read about a hundred different ways
My Movie – Donnie Darko because time is relative and I feel I would need to be reminded of that.
My Man – Jonathan Franzen because I need someone with a different point of view than me and I’m pretty sure I could kick his ass at Jeopardy.
My Drug – T-3’s. They can be used for infections, pain killers and boiled down into codeine if I wanna get fucked up.
4) Write a haiku explaining your experience with love (5 syllables, 7 syllables, 5 syllables)
I can stay or go
Say something I cannot hold
Love.stands in doorways
5) Favorite quote:
“The world is upside down when you stand on your head. The only problem is you’re the only one that sees it that way.” – Calvin and Hobbs
Haha. I don’t have time for all this. Thanks though for telling me about yourself.
Hey Tony,
I was just wondering what your opinion is on using snapchat as a tool.
I’ve never actually used it. I’ve been trying out Bumble though. Generally I use social media as little as possible. I just don’t like it.