How to Deal With Rejections From Women

It always surprises me when women are so amazed that my job exists. “Do men really need this stuff?”

“Yes, they do.”

“What do you teach them?”

“I teach them social skills, confidence, and charm.”

“Do you teach them negs?”

“I teach them to have standards, and to be funny.”

“Are you teaching manipulation? Do you create players?”

“No, you do.”

“How do I create players?”

“By being so incredibly difficult to get a date with.”

If you approach women with the intention of picking them up, you will be rejected…a lot. This is because the vast majority of hot women are either unavailable, not bar sluts, or disinterested.

How do they reject you?

Women with good social skills and confidence will probably say, “I’m sorry, but I have a boyfriend,” or, “Thank you, you’re really nice, but I’m not interested.” Sometimes they will just change the subject to something superficial like the taste of her drink, or the club lighting, or about how late for work she is. Then she’ll walk away, or turn and talk to somebody else. Not so bad!

Then there are the other girls…the rude bitches.

In my experience, the rude bitches aren’t usually the most attractive girls in the venue. They’re usually a 5 or 6 in looks, and a 5 or 6 in personality. They haven’t been hit on by everything with a dick since they were 15 like a super hottie would have been. But at some point they became a bit hotter, and now guys are coming at them in droves, and doing poorly.

They’ve probably been used and dumped by several guys, and now they don’t trust men. The super hottie is used to guys trying for exclusivity, and she’s used to rejecting men in a way that won’t destroy their fragile ego’s. The less attractive girls is still learning how men operate. She doesn’t get us because she lacks experience with men.

When a woman rejects or ignores your advances, never, ever get pissed off at her. Do not yell at her, or tell her she’s fat. Even if she calls you an ugly douchebag, you say something neutral like, “Well, have a good night,” smile, and move on to the next girl. Do not let your emotions overcome you. Be cool, stay positive, keep your chin up. She doesn’t know you, she’s just a little bit insecure.

Smart girls realize that being approached is a compliment, and that it took a tremendous amount of balls for you to approach her. She will at the very least, respect your effort.

Another problem is the douchebags. These guys have the balls to approach a girl, but they have no game. They grind up on chicks they just met, without an invitation, and they say dumb shit like, “Yo girl, what’s your name? Where you from?” When they’re politely rejected they say stuff like, “You’re not my type anyway, biatch!”

So they ruin women for the rest of us.

But you aren’t a douchebag. You have charm…you have standards…you have game. You realize that rejection is innevitable and it’s nothing personal. You move on and look for a receptive girl and you carry an air of constant positivity.

Sometimes girls will politely reject you, and when you remain cool, indifferent, funny and charming…they change their minds. It’s happened to me many times, where a girl rejected me and then approached me later to reinitiate flirtation. This was because I remained cool about the whole thing, and didn’t take the rejection personally. It’s a very attractive trait.

If you enjoy gaming in loud public clubs, you will be meeting a lower class of girl. You’ll experience harsher rejections like hands in your face and girls yelling, “fuck off!” If you do daygame in places like bookstores and coffee shops, you’ll get more, “Sorry, but I have a boyfriend,” while she stares into her cell phone and pretends to text someone.

The good news is, rejection doesn’t change who you are. In fact, it will build character and strength. And if you play the game long enough, you will attract and hook up with some great girls. Then you will know that you’re good enough, and that the rejections don’t mean squat.