Eye Contact and Confidence

Eye contact is one of the most powerful tools in a man’s seductive arsenal.

It also seems to be the hardest for newbies to grasp.

The ability to stare hypnotically into a beautiful woman’s eyes without displaying a hint of insecurity, doubt, or apology. This is the essence of communicating social, and sexual confidence.

One exercise I employ is to have two students stand in the street, close enough to touch toes, and stare into each other’s eyes. A bit gay yes, but educational. If one student averts his eyes, the other must pinch the flincher, hard. The fear of physical pain overrides the fear of social judgement from passers by.

Guys always ask “But isn’t it creepy to stare?”

It always comes back to the law of state transference: Whatever you feel, she feels.

If you feel your actions are creepy, this will manifest as insecurity. Aka, bad eye contact.

A simple test: The next woman you talk to, count how many times she breaks eye contact with you, vs how many times you break eye contact with her. If you are breaking eye contact more often than her, you lose.

Every rule can be broken. You can actually break eye contact as a tactic: to show a lack of interest, as a take-away, to compel the woman to chase for your attention. But this has to be completely your decision. Like how a fighter might choose to retreat, in order to bait the opponent.

In order to break any rule, you should first master the fundamentals. Only then can you break them.

***The beta readers have reviewed the early draft of my new book, and the consensus is, it’s not ready. It might take another year. So be it.***

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