Escalating With A Girl. Physical Game and Direct Verbal Compliments.
I don’t know how to escalate without coming off as creepy. I can talk and joke around with her and make her laugh. Then I’m stuck. I can’t proceed, and the night ends as it started. How do I get past the “initial meeting” stage?
Ahh, newbie issues. You’ve conquered the approach anxiety, learned how to entertain her, and now you can’t escalate or close. The best answer for this situation is communication and kino. As for communication, I would just let her know what you think. “You’re very cute,” will do. Forget the pua nonsense about giving away your power. If you don’t have the skill to seduce a girl and turn her on indirectly, then go direct. It’s way better than not doing anything because you don’t know how. Just straight up tell her. Nothing creepy about being honest about your feelings. Being direct can be a very powerful seduction tactic.
On day one of my bootcamp I give students a simple to do list for. Number one on this list is Kino, which is short for kinesthetics, and means “physical contact with a female.”
Here are some tips for creating a physical bond with a woman
- The next time you go out at night, your sole mission is to find a woman to hug you. Do not lean in to the hug, or ask for the hug, simply swing your arms wide and say, “Gimme some love.” Do this until a girl hugs you. It shouldn’t take long.
- Walk around the bar with your hand out, up in the glorious air, like for a high five. When a girl gives you her mitten, take it and spin her like a ballerina. Then, drape it over your shoulders, pull her waist in towards yours so that you are looking her straight in the eyes, and then practice, practice this until you are master and commander. You don’t need to be handsome, just ballsy and direct. With my students it usually takes about ten minutes, or two or three tries to master this technique, and it blows their minds how easy it is, and how cool the girls are with it. Read the above over and over until you believe. Go try tonight, and report in the comments.
- If you’re sitting beside her, as you’re talking, touch her earrings, her necklace, her blouse, her t-shirt. Basically, use any and all opportunity to touch her. Don’t worry about being, “creepy,” or anything, especially if you’re in a bar. Just don’t practice with friends from work. If the girl is willing to sit and chat with you, she’ll probably be down for some physical contact. This type of touching can turn her on. Do you like it when pretty girls touch you? Of course. They like it too.
- Ask girls to kiss your cheek. Again, I like to say, “Give me some love,” but while tapping my cheek. I’d say 50% of girls comply. The other half usually laugh and shrug it off. But if a girl is down to kiss my cheek, it’s a pretty strong indicator of interest. Never try, never know.
- Try to kiss her. That’s my standard for nightgame when I don’t know what to do next. I just try to kiss her. She usually rejects my first attempt but I’m fairly smooth, so I can get it the second time. And after I get rejected, she respects my courage and tenacity. Don’t know what to say? Pucker up and lean in. Now she knows what you want, and it can be pretty funny. Even if she doesn’t kiss you, it’s in her head that you want to. That’s better then her never knowing what the fuck you want from her.
Someone might read this list and scoff or call it assault or some garbage; but this is what I’ve been teaching men to do in-field, for five years, and it works. Physical game is the absolute easiest way to pump attraction in a woman. You can even get quite physical in the daytime. I’ve danced with girls in the street, I’ve kissed girls in the street, and all that. When you don’t know what to say yet, try something physical.
