Horny Women: 17 Ways to Make a Girl Horny
Wouldn’t life be easy if women were just like video game consoles? She’s not horny tonight? Just put in this cheat code and now she’s dripping wet, clawing at your shorts and begging you to drive your love-rod deep inside her, NOW!
Unfortunately women aren’t assembled in a factory and there’s no one technique that makes any girl slopping wet with horniness.
While male sexuality is predictable, for women it’s like God wanted us to struggle in paradox and confusion.
If you’re asking how to make a girl horny, the answer is it depends. Are you in a marriage or ltr? Or are you trying to seduce a girl you picked up during a daygame session, Tinder, or a bar?
This guide focuses on women you haven’t slept with yet, but would like to.
This is Not a Sex Technique Guide
This isn’t a guide on how to spank a girl while she rides you reverse cowboy. It’s about how to get a woman to be horny enough to want to sleep with you.
If you want to be better at sex and foreplay, you need lots of practice. That’s why you should learn how to approach women, get dates, and then have lots of sex.
Do Women Get Horny?
If you aren’t sleeping with a lot of girls, then you probably don’t know that women indeed get horny.
Their pussies get wet just imagining being with hot guys, getting bent over a bed, rammed doggystyle while screaming for mercy from all that extreme pleasure.
I even claim many women get hornier than men. But sex comes with a lot of consequences that men don’t deal with, like pregnancy, disease, and slut shaming.
But if you know women well enough, and they trust you, they’ll simply tell you when they’re horny. I’ve had many girls just straight up tell me, “Tony, I’m so horny right now.”
I remember this 21 year old German chick I travelled with in Thailand. We’d checked out of our hotel and were taking a swim in the indoor pool. She gripped onto a fountain and rubbed her ripe ass all over my stiff unit. I was so horny it hurt. We didn’t have a place to release that tension, and she kept saying, “Fuck, I’m so horny right now.”
“Well, there’s a shower over there.” I replied.
“Really?”
“Let’s go.”
I took her to the pool shower and railed her from behind. Even though I cupped her mouth with my hand, she was so loud. When we emerged all flustered, a family ushered past us, the parents flashing us dirty looks. I think we traumatized them.
Sensual vs Emotional Triggers
Women do get horny, but they have different triggers than men do.
Sensual triggers are the senses, like touch, smell, sound, sight. Taste, to a degree (don’t smoke.)
Emotional triggers are based in the imagination.
For example, if I say Imagine big breasts bouncing in your face, you’ll be turned on. But if there was actually a pair of big breasts bouncing in your face, you would be far more aroused.
For a woman, her emotional triggers involve more complex stimuli. Telling her to imagine a pair of six pack abs, or a handsome face isn’t as powerful as her imagining making love to her boss in her husband’s bed, while her husband is on his way home from work, and there’s only a few minutes before it’s game over!
It’s the naughtiness, the forbidden, the tension that turns her on. Tension and taboo is also arousing for men, but not necessary to make us horny.
For men, our sexual triggers are let’s say, 70% sensual, 30% emotional.
Women are 30% sensual, 70% emotional, and even intellectual.
The woman’s most powerful sex organ is her mind.
What Makes Women Horny?
Most guys think it’s technique that makes women horny. Things like blowing in her ear, or sucking her toes. While technique plays an important part in make her hornier, it’s just a small piece of the puzzle.
Women’s sexuality is like a Rubix Cube with many moving parts. So let’s look at some of these moving parts so you can understand female horniness and its many trigger.
1. Emotion
Sexuality is emotion; pleasure is a sensation.
When you look at a beautiful woman, you experience pleasure. But that sensation can lead to a myriad of different emotions. For men those might be happiness, anxiety, anger and even fear.
Also for women, when they’re aroused they experience many psychological, physiological and emotional effects. But women are creatures of emotion and therefore if you want to make a girl horny, giving her an emotional experience will draw a line straight to her libido.
2. Trust
The more a woman trusts the man she’s letting inside of her, the easier it will be to make her horny.
When a woman is naked with her legs spread over her head, she’s at her most vulnerable. you don’t want her thinking OMG does this guy think I’m fat or did I remember to shave my legs today?
Trust is easy to build. you just need shared experiences, in a fair amount of comfort building through conversation and shared experience. For trust to build, the more time you spend together the better.
When a woman fully trusts her man she’ll find herself horny at the strangest of times.
3. Drama
Anyone who’s been in a relationship with a woman knows that the best sex comes after a fight. Just watch any romantic movie and you’ll see that a woman’s need for drama is deep rooted in her psyche.
Drama doesn’t have to come from a fight. Any dramatic experience that you share together, that tension can be relieved through a passionate bang.
4. Touch
A single touch can create more sexual tension than a novel’s worth of words. The various ways you could touch a woman to turn her on could fill a Trilogy of books.
In the pickup world we call this kino which is short for kinesthetics.
Here’s another article from Psychology Today with many clinical examples of how touch creates arousal.
5. Jealousy
I had a girlfriend who told me she got very horny when she saw other women flirting with me. I used to demonstrate my approach skills when we would go out to bars, and it always turned her on knowing her man was desirable to other women.
This is because women are wired for pre-selection, which states that women desire men who are desired by other women.
This is why a celebrity with high social value can have a harem of beautiful women while the average guy can barely get a date with one. Even if he’s the midget from Game of Thrones he could have his pick of the women because he’s pre-selected.
When a woman knows her man could be stolen by another beautiful woman it triggers some prima,l desire deep in her lizard brain. When she has the possibility of that man inside of her… this can make her extremely horny.
6. Be Sexy
I have so many students who think they’re not good looking.
Any guy can increase his looks rating with a few simple strategies.
- Get a good haircut
- Buy new clothes that are stylish and fit
- Work out
A guy who is a 7/10 can go to an 8 or 9 simply by getting in shape, fixing their hair (or lack thereof) and buying some nice clothes.
At the least you’ll start to feel better about yourself, and that will make you appear more confident, which looks attractive.
Do all this, and you will become much sexier in the eyes of women.
7. Taboo
Taboo can be a turn-on for women because it taps into the allure of the forbidden, the excitement of breaking social norms, and the thrill of secrecy.
The brain finds what is forbidden to be more intriguing and exciting. Engaging in taboo heightens arousal because it challenges societal norms and personal boundaries, creating a feeling of rebellion and excitement.
Examples of taboo are:
- A significant age gap.
- Role-playing
- Extramarital affairs
- Polyamory or swinging
- Sex in public locations
- Engaging in Fetishes
Anything that is considered “naughty” or “morally grey” can make a woman extremely horny.
If you want to read a very educational book, check out “My Secret Garden” by Nancy Friday. In this book the author interviews hundreds of women about their deepest, darkest, taboo sexual-fantasies.
8. The Chase
Women love to be pursued. While they don’t want to be pursued by a man they have no attraction to, the feeling of being the prey to a strong, sexy man’s hunt, can have a powerful effect on her libido.
As a man you can achieve this by simply being persistent.
9. Dirty Talk
Nothing turns a girl on like telling her all the naughty things you want to do to her.
“When I get you alone I’m going to slowly kiss and lick every part of your body… but I’m not going to give you the satisfaction you crave until you beg for it.”
Say that to a girl and watch how horny she gets.
10. Role-playing
Real life can be dull. Remember when you were a kid and you’d play make-believe? As an adult, make-believe, or role-playing can be extremely erotic.
Roleplaying usually happens in the bedroom but can start much earlier.
Think of Halloween for example. One Halloween I went out dressed as Santa Clause. Every girl who saw me would scream “Santa!” And I’d reply, “Ho Ho Ho!? Have you been a naughty little girl? Come sit on Santa’s lap.”
While it sounds slightly pervy, this was actually hilarious and I usually ended up getting a fair bit of action on Halloween, thanks to Santa.
It doesn’t have to be Halloween. If you think about it, in the seduction stage we’re all playing roles. You’re playing the confident, mysterious stranger, and she’s playing the sexy lady who can’t help attracting men.
11. Cuddling
When we cuddle our bodies release a chemical called Oxytocin which initiates pair bonding. Called the love drug, Oxytocin increases feelings of attraction, comfort and arousal.
You don’t need to cuddle to release Oxytocin; even a light touch on the hand, arm, or knee can release Oxytocin. So never let an opportunity to touch her slip by.
You can start with a pro-longed hand shake, or find an excuse to look at one of her rings, or get a closer look at her butterfly tattoo.
I have a guide here on how to touch a girl and signs a girl wants to be touched.
12. Sweetness
Most pickup advice tells us to never compliment a girl, or act too nice. There must be a balance between being an aloof badboy and a sweet nice guy.
Women can be very romantic and respond warmly to romantic gestures. Something nice like opening a door, giving her flowers, cooking a nice dinner with candles or just giving her a well timed compliment can spark her libido. Especially if it’s from a man she’s attracted to.
13. Passion
Passion is when you have a deep love, appreciation or admiration for something, and are willing to work hard to obtain it.
Many guys have passion for sports, music, art, travel, business and adventure. Of course we all have a passion for hot women.
When you feel passionate about something and work hard to obtain it, this can be arousing for women. And if you take that same passion and direct it towards her, it can even make her horny. This is because women are turned on when they feel desired by attractive men.
By attractive I don’t mean over six foot tall with six pack abs. You could be intelligent, charming, funny, brave, or popular. A man with attractive qualities who is passionate is very sexy.
14. Dominance
Women love a dominant man. That doesn’t mean yelling, or acting macho. It means being a guy who knows what he wants and how to get it, without using force.
No woman wants to have sex with a wimp. She wants to feel safe, protected, and smaller than her man.
Learn to express your true opinion despite popular opinion. There’s a great book about this called, “No More Mr. Nice Guy.”
15. Tension
Imagine a dam holding back rising waters. If the water gets too high it spills over the edge. At some point the pressure needs to be released.
Sexual tension feels like pressure that builds and needs to be released.
Tension can be built up in many ways. Just look at the above list and you’ll have plenty of ideas on how to build it.
16. Talk About Sex
One of the easiest ways to make a woman horny is to talk about sex. A woman thinking about sex may just think about having it with you.
You can bring it up subtly, or even directly.
Subtle: “I was backpacking in Thailand last year and often heard couples having sex in the dorm. It always wakes me up and makes me super horny.”
Direct: “What’s the craziest place you’ve had sex?”
While it may seem too forward or even creepy to bring up sex on a first date, you’d be surprised how many girls are fine, and even enthusiastic when talking about sex.
17. Danger
In my novel A Thousand Tiny Failures, I tell a story about how a girl and I almost drowned together in a river in Laos.
The excitement of surviving that adventure together made us both super horny, and we had passionate sex right after.
Imagine you are on a date with a girl and a comet hits your city. It doesn’t hurt you, but it creates an element of danger. This drama creates excitement and an opportunity for you to show her your masculine core. This is an extreme example of course.
Why do you think women are so attracted to bad boys and outlaws? Look at the attention rappers, Hells Angels, and thugs get from hot girls. Because they’re dangerous, and danger is sexy.
Just look at all the movies that are about a man and a woman in a dangerous situation and how it brings them together as lovers.
You can manufacture a feeling of danger by taking her on a roller coaster, driving a motorcycle, or teaching her how to shoot a rifle.
Conclusion:
So 17 ways to make a woman horny are:
- Emotion
- Trust
- Drama
- Touch
- Jealousy
- Be Sexy
- Taboo
- The Chase
- Dirty Talk
- Role-playing
- Cuddling and Touch
- Sweetness
- Passion
- Dominance
- Tension
- Talk About Sex
- Danger
If you want to know how to make a woman horny in the bedroom, read this guide to giving a woman great sex.
Now get out and find that girl, and remember to make her super horny.
