How to Get an Instant Date from Day Game
Getting an instant date from day game isn’t that difficult. I’ve had hundreds over the last fifteen years.
They don’t always lead to anything special, but the more time you spend with her, the more likely you are to get a second date and get laid.
Some guys ask me if it’s better just to grab a quick contact close, or go for an instant date. I suppose it depends on how busy you are, and how busy she is.
I really like this line: “What are you up to right now?”
If she replies: “Nothing,” you’re ready for an instant date. But if she’s busy on her way to work, school, or to meet friends, don’t fret; you can still have an idate. (The term idate I give credit to Krauser. Look him up.)
Is she actually too busy for an instant date?
Can you determine if she’s trying to blow you off, or if she’s actually on her way to do something important? Does she have a boyfriend? This might take a little experience.
I can usually tell if a girl is comfortable or attracted to me. Women will give little tells, indicators of interest, etc. For new guys, assume the sale… assume that you have high value. Why wouldn’t she like you? You’re awesome! Right?
Walk with her
So if she’s on her way and doesn’t have time to go for ice cream with you, walk with her. This can be considered an insta-date.
Her: “I’m on my way to meet a friend.”
You: “I’m going that way too, let’s walk together.”
She will reply: “No, I’d rather walk alone thank you.” Or “Sure!”
If she’s not feeling you and she’s conflict-averse (most women are) then her body language may give tells that she’s uncomfortable. This will be avoiding eye contact, checking her phone, scratching her arm, fidgeting, and looking around for an escape route.
In that case, you just bow out with “Have a great day!” Next.
Is it better to spend less or more time with her?
I would say it’s always better to choose the instant date over the quick number close.
The more time you spend together, the more comfort, rapport and attraction you can build. You have more time to share stories, personal interests, passions, philosophies, and shared experiences.
I’ve met girls on the street, in a mall, or cafe and then taken them to the beach, a park, window shopping, motorcycle rides around the city, for lunch, swimming, dinner, drinks…
It doesn’t really matter what you do on an idate, as long as you have a good time with her, and know how to escalate sexually.
How to escalate on an instant date
Escalating means moving the approach from friendly, to flirtatious.
Read this article on signs that a girl wants you to touch her, and also how to touch a girl. This can ease some of the stress of not knowing what to talk about.
Let’s dive into the meat: escalating on an instant date.
Here’s how to make an instant date happen smoothly:
- Start with Light Touching: Keep it chill with some light, incidental touches like a playful tap on the arm or a friendly nudge. This helps you feel out her comfort level and sets the stage for more intimate contact.
- Her Body Language: Watch her reactions to your touch. If she’s leaning in, maintaining eye contact, or touching you back, you’re good. If she seems uneasy, back off a bit and give her some space.
- Use Compliments Wisely: Compliments should be genuine and hit home. Skip the generic shit like “You’re beautiful” and go for something like, “I love the way your cheeks turn pink when you talk about your favorite books.”
- Share Personal Stories: Open up about your own experiences, passions, and interests. This makes you more relatable and encourages her to share more about herself, building a deeper connection. I get every student to memorize at least three stories they can pull out anytime during their instant date.
- Introduce Playful Teasing: A little teasing can go a long way in creating a playful dynamic and boosting attraction. Teasing takes a bit of study and practice. Don’t stress if you don’t get it right. Make mistakes and learn from them.
- Gauge Her Interest: As the date progresses, see if she’s down for more intimate touches like touching her hands (yes you can touch her hand on an instant date if you want) or putting your arm around her. She’ll usually pull away or tell you she’s not down for that yet.
- Future Projection: If things are going well, suggest a follow-up date “We should hang out later this week.” This shows you’re down to see her again and helps keep the momentum going. If she says she’s busy all week, she’s blowing you off. Go meet more girls.
- Be Confident and Assertive: Always assume you have high value. Rather than asking politely, make statements. “Let’s go to the beach. Follow me,” or, “You have to try the coffee here. Let’s go, I’m buying.” Making assertive statements can be a form of escalation because this trait is attractive to most women.
What to do with a girl on an instant date
What you do on an instant date matters less than who you are.
If you understand female attraction psychology, how to talk to girls, how to escalate physically, and have your fundamentals down, then a fun date will come organically.
Of course this all requires a bit of study and practice. That’s what all my content is for. So keep researching.
As for activities, I prefer going for coffee, checking out art galleries, a park, or the beach. It really depends on where you live and what activities there are to do in your area.
Conclusion
Instant dates are a fantastic way to quickly build rapport, comfort, and attraction.
By following these tips, you’ll increase your chances of turning it into a hot, steamy sex fest.
Or maybe you can manifest your perfect girl and make her your wife.
For more in-depth tips and strategies, join my Skool community and check out my free Conversation Genius course. It covers everything from flirting and teasing to building sexual tension and creating lasting connections.
Plus, my YouTube channel is packed with content to help you up your social and dating game.
