Average Men With Beautiful Girlfriends
A student assumed that an average-looking man with a very beautiful girlfriend must have a natural or learned mastery of social/seduction skills.
He was referring to anecdotal experiences of seeing fugly dudes with hottie lady friends.
No so, my padawan.
The majority of women meet their mates through school, work, and social circles. I assume less than 5% of the male population ever attempts to approach women outside of these parameters, besides the odd drunken nightclub attempt.
This is why they call it “Getting lucky.” Because if it wasn’t for luck, they would die virgins.
We make our own luck.
Men who study seduction scientifically tend to funnel all socialization through the lens of cold approach and personal development.
There’s this idea that you can only land yourself a beautiful girlfriend after you’ve done 10,000 cold approaches or mastered some social media dating mastery course.
Fortunately for them, some men just “get lucky.”
Before I learned to cold approach I met women like any other average, frustrated guy… through sheer goddamn luck.
Basically, an incel until I started a punk band in my twenties and several brave ladies made it very, very well known they wanted me.
I lost these girls as quickly as I landed them.
It wasn’t until years later, after mastering cold approach and facing thousands of rejections that I was able to keep girlfriends around longer than a month. I was needy, jealous, and horribly insecure. Having my ass kicked by learning cold approach transformed me from boy to man.
Haters claim pickup as science makes all women replaceable, or part of a numbers game. That may be so, but the marketplace is brutal and you either swim with the sharks or sink with the bottom feeders.
If you’ve ever dated a beautiful woman as an average-looking guy you know – from the moment she turns on her phone – her life is one long series of thirsty proposals. If the offers aren’t arriving from social media, they’re coming from work, school, the gym, her social circle.
The average man with a beautiful girlfriend seems cool and chill because that’s his only option.
If he were to act awkward, shy, jealous, or boring, she wouldn’t tolerate it.
Just watch this guy at a party while his sexy girlfriend flirts with half the bar and he sits back stoically sipping his beer. This isn’t a learned confidence. It’s because he fears saying anything about her behaviour, lest he lose his one special girl.
There are outliers. There are men who are naturally “alpha,” who have an intuitive knack with women. But they’re not usually average looking, short, or dorks. They didn’t “get lucky” to land their hottie girlfriend, but attracted her like a moth to the flame.
The average man with the hottie; he knows it may be another decade before the gods shine on him again. She wants familiarity and stability, which he provides, as a base from which to shop her beauty without repercussion.
You want to be the average looking boyfriend from a place of strength and abundance, rather than fear and and submissive scarcity.
It’s between a woman following you through life, or you following her.
